Hi Ladies, again this is opinion based but i do believe they are related as they say your risk increases the earlier a woman has a period,age of which a lady becomes pregnant, amount of pregnancies, also they have recently said that if a lady carries weight around her middle at a certion stage in her life that all increases the risks. in my opinion it is all hormonal related as with most of these examples the hormones increase and decrease. you prob are thinking about it though to try and answer any questions you have and it gives you something to try and make sense out of. again opinion based only i get fed up of all the things they tell us to avoid then discover later there is no real risk. i do agree our gp's are the experts however you have had some time of it. love lainey xxx
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My youngest son is 15 and my partners sons are 8 and 15. My son found me losing my hair very difficult - he has a quirky sense of humour and when my hair started to fall out I thought showing him my "party trick" of tugging out clumps of hair a bit like the nutty proffesor after an explosion would make him laugh but it didn't. I think he saw it as confirmation that I was really sick ( I had appeared to the world as well until that point). It may have been worse because he does not live with me and so the difference he saw at each visit was more dramatic. His friends however were very accepting of it all and always asked how I was when they came over to see me with my son - this made a big difference. My partners boys were very different, in fact the youngest was quite curious about it all and had loads of questions about why it fell out - I gave a simple explanantion that the medicine kills all fast growing cells - good and bad, as hair is a fast growing cell thats why it falls out.
Now my hair has started to grow back my son has been giving me all sorts of advice on hair gel etc - and it has become a bit of a game as to how I will have styled my hair each time I see him.
My son did not like me wearing hats, was not too happy about the wig but accepted the styled pasmenas that I wore. All this has taught me is that each child is different and whilst age can play a factor some children deal with somethings better than others - you just have to talk to them and see how they feel too.
Also don't forget your eyebrows and eyeliner - had to use eyebrow pencil for the first time in my life as I looked blank without them. Try and get a good pencil which matches your natural colour and start using it before you loose your brows as it teaches you where they should be naturally.
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I'm 37 and first found my lump in July this year. My surgeon misdiagnosed me and said it was a cyst. After receiving this good news, my husband and I decided we wanted to go ahead and try for child number 4. We're incredibly lucky and have 3 beautiful kids aged 2, 4, and 6. Previous to this though we've been to hell and back over the last 10 years with an ectopic pregnancy and several miscarraiges including one very late 1!
I then got called back to the surgeon to be told he wanted to do bi-op on cyst. Long story short, it was the dreaded C and I had to terminate my pregnancy at 9 weeks. This i found was the most traumatic part of this whole sorry mess!
I defo believe that there is a link between pregnancy problems and BC. Why else do some people stroll through life with no struggles at all???
I've just had my first FEC about a week ago but I think for me, the hardest thing to come to terms with, is not the cancer (maybe I'm still in denial), but the fact if the chemo doesn't stop the periods i have to have the menopause bought on by injections and then tamoxofin for 5 years.
As I say, I'm incredibly lucky and I Thank God every day for my kids, it's them that get me through it all! I realise that some people aren't so fortunate as me, but some days i feel extremely resentful about other people who don't have suffer like we are!!
Good luck to everyone still waiting for surgery or having chemo. Here's hoping that next Christmas will be a happier one for all of us!
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Sorry to hop in on your thread.
I've finished 3 x FEC and just had first TAX yesterday (so new SE's for me right now too)
Re your sickness Mjje...speak to your onc and they will up your anti-sickness next time. I know what you mean about the light headedness though! I had granisteron and dom peridone to help me and I never had one inkling of sickness. This was on top of what they put in with your chemo.
Don't suffer in silence....though you seem to be coping really well. Good luck with it all.
I have used the cold cap and still have most of my hair...not sure what the TAX will do to it though!
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