I had a chat with my consultant last week about a reduction as after lumpectomy, i reckon mine are 2-3sizes different now.
He was very willing for me to consider it altho was very down to earth and advised that I took time to think about it, as this time I have achoice, when it was cancer I had not! He said it would be fine to have the reduction on NHS (and Leeds dont have much of a waiting list at mo) but that i wouldn't be a straight forward op as tyhe nipple and a section below it containing nerves etc would have to be relocated and that there could possibly be a T shape scarring and potential loss of sensation in the nipple. Also having had radiotherapy on my right boob, that one will now be 'stuck in time', whilst even after reduction, over time with the effect of age and gravity, the left one will still end up 'sagging'! Also due to radiotherapy, healing may take a little longer than the last one.
Basically I think he was telling me worse case scenario, so I wouldn't rush in to a non-necessary operation - its not just free cosmetic surgery!
People say the difference insn't noticable but to me it is - clothes all pull to one side etc and Im sure over time, as I grow older the difference will be more obvious - I'm 39 so hopefully have quite a few years left! Anyway - I've decided to go ahead and have made another appointment to see him again to get booked in.
Hope yours seems as willing if that's what you want.
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being there I know you must be so concerned and worried that every scenario wil be going through your minds. remember a biopsy is of tissue etc - my first 4 were all fat!! I had to have more done under ultra sound guidance. i didn't see these, but heard the consultant saying - yes we've got what we want - I obviously didnt know how to take this - did he mean they've found cancer or just that he'd got the right bit of tissue? I tried hard not to think about it as if I had I'd have driven myself mad.
You're partner will probably be relieved that this step is over and done with for now - if she's anything like me, she'll want to try and get on with her life (as well as possible) over the next cople of weeks whilst awaiting results. Its not easy but I found that I didn't want people talking about it all the time. My OH understood how I felt but was also definitely there for me to chat to whenever I wanted or more importantly for me, just to have the hugs when needed!
I personally can't cope with sympathy and prefer to try and take each step as it comes. You will know your partner and what support she needs. You certainly love her and the most important thing is that she knows you're there for her.
One last piece of advice - dont swat up on the web sites about breast cancer - they can terrify - everyone is different and even if like me the results are malignant, the prognosis doesn't have to be anywhere near as bad as sites can make out. It is treatable - stay positive yet realistic.
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