Breast Cancer Now Forum

Hello Sheila There is no right or wrong way to react to the result. You will be shell shocked as we all have been on hearing the news. I would say that you should tell your husband, hopefully he will be your strongest support. You will need someone to lean on. Your family I am sure would be upset to know you hadn't told them as for your employer well you will have to mention it as you will probably be off work for a while. Right now you don't know which way to turn but believe me you will get through this and are a lot stronger than you give yourself credit for. Take one day at a time, don't try to think about yesterday or tomorrow but live through each moment of the present. Hard I know, easier said than done i know but it kind of worked for me. I wish you all the bestxx ... View more

Got my result after waiting for four and a half weeks and its normal. Just sat on my stairs and cried with relief. I just live every day to the full now and value so much all my friends and family. ... View more

RV = I was off for several months during chemo and rads. I felt too unwell to contemplate going back to work. Don't push yourself from a feeling of obligation to go to work. You won't get any extra thanks for it and just end up feeling worse...... I am now back at work parttime although feeling well I still get a little tired and don't want to oberdo it....take care and hope all goes well...the nurses in the chemo ward are great..... ... View more

Mine aren't too bad during the day but as I sit typing this I can feel the heat rising and the back of my neck running with sweat.....oh joy.......My husband is away for a few days and on his return tomorrow he will find the summer duvet on our bed, can't cope with the winter one any more. Window wide open and iced water to hand. Started when I got put on tamoxifin. I also notice that coffee triggers them so have given that up...mostly.... ... View more

i was advised not to dye my hair. I have left it to grow back in grey and do you know what...I have had more compliments with grey short hair that I ever did with mid length honey coloured hair....You know we got so conditioned by the media to colour our hair that we just do it. My hairdressser is wonderful and gives me a lot of pointers in making sure the grey doesn' look dull but nice and shiney. I think it works in a short style, not quite ready for the granny perm and blue rinse just yet..... ... View more

soooooooo pleased for you x ... View more

I was told it didn't work for everybody and unfortunately I was one of them, my hair still fell out....but good luck and I hope you are an exception to the rule..... ... View more

ladies - why don't we arrange a meet up one weekend.......... ... View more

Hi my name is Elinor - live in Eaglescliffe age 51. Was diagnosed with grade 3 cancer but caught early. Not spread to lymph nodes. Had lumpectomy and chemo at North Tees, rads at James Cook. Just had my first mammogram since rads finished in February. Am now on Tamoxifen and suffering hot flushes every night and they won't really let me take anything for it. Got the all clear but took them 4 and a half weeks to tell me. Would like very much to meet up with anyone and chat and help with any advice from my experience if i can. Let me know.... ... View more

I have reached the other end having had both chemo and rads. I had a lumpectomy and was found to have had an agressive cancer but because I had found it early it had not spread to my nodes. I had to wait two weeks after op for the results. The chemo was tough but I found talking to other women at the clinic whilst getting it done really helped. Try and take someone with you if you can. They can give you different sorts of medication for the sickness. I had a total of eight months off and am now back at work part time. You will get through it.....good luck ... View more

Been through all the chemo and the rads and got my first all clear. Its tough going through it. I always wondered what I would look like bald.....not a pretty sight...but i got two fantastic wigs on the NHS...Take advantage of anything that is offered to you....I have found that my hair on my legs does not grow back very quickly now...but my hair grew back quicker than I thought. Good luck to you all...there is light at the end of the tunnel...just hang on in there.... ... View more

lincs lady.........I know how you must be feeling.....good luck....let us know..... ... View more

waking up every two hours most nights with hot flushes. I feel a prickly heat and have to get up to cool down. My oncologist won't let me take anything else apart from Evening Primrose which makes no difference whatsoever. I am quite tired most days and have to drag myself through the working day...Oh for a full nights unbroken sleep..... that would be bliss...... ... View more

Had my first mammogram and was very nervous. It was really uncomfortable. She had scans of my breast from last year lit up and I could quite clearly see the lump. When she had finished I asked if she could see anything and all she said was that I would have to wait 4 to 6 weeks for the result. I spent a very anxious 4 and half weeks for the result which came on Saturday. Thankfully it was all clear. I just sat on my stairs and cried. I think it was the relief from the stress. Do they realise just what we go through. It seems to me that once you have finished your chemo and rads you kind of get forgotten about. ... View more

Hi there.....just thought I would let you all know I finally got my result on Saturday after four and a half weeks of waiting and it said I was clear. I sat on the stairs and burst into tears...I guess I had been feeling more anxious that I had realised. ... View more

I don't think they realise the level of anxiety it causes. I thought I had got it under control in my head but now I am reliving it again. Think the men in white coats may be carting me off soon. I think that hospitals need to review their strategy especially for the first mammogram. I understand they are usually understaffed but I think that their policy should be updated. Maybe if we all make enough noise they might listen? Well, here's hoping.... ... View more

Hi there Had my first mammogram 8.25 am this morning. Have to wait 4 to 6 weeks for the results as my consultant has to see them and they will notify me by letter.....surely they can do better than that... ... View more

Going for my first mammogram tomorrow after chemo and radiotherapy. Very, very nervous. Not told many people, can't cope with the 'I'm sure it will be fine' senario. Feel like I want to cry. Can't settle, just want tomorrow morning tobe over with... ... View more

Looking into the wood all I saw was a dark, dark inhospitable place. Slowly I walked through and managed to get on a footpath which slowly led me through into a glade. I followed this and sometimes nearly veered off into the dark place again. I kept on the path and finally have come through the other side. looking back, the dark wood is a scary place but not unbeatable. You will come through it, horrible as it may be and hopefully reach the open spaces and sunshine once again. ... View more