I posted you a long reply yesterday and it disappeared! So here I go again ........
You have had lots of excellent advice so far but I thought my experience might help a little. I had a mx in October 2008. Before my operation I bought some post surgery bras from Asda (I got that tip off this forum). They are not too expensive. I bought lots of different sizes, brought them home and tried them on then took the ones that didn't fit back and got a refund (it can be quite difficult to know exactly what size you are). I wore them with my softie (comfie) for about 8 weeks. As Elsa says, you can take stuffing out of the softie and put it back in to suit. I wore loose tops which were easy to take off and put on.
When you are ready to get your breast form and "proper" bra take your time to get everything right. I knew I wouldn't look the same without my clothes but I wanted to look good with them on. I saw the breast form fitter at the hospital and the first breast form she gave me was too heavy so she got me a lightweight one. She also gave me a stick on breast form (Contact) to try, it didn't suit me but lots of ladies think they are great. Go to a specialist shop to be fitted for a bra. Even if it is a pain because you have to travel to one still go, then in future you can order over the phone or online when they have your measurements etc. A problem I found is when I bent forward even high neck tops would fall forward and reveal everything so I secure my tops with body tape (I use Eylure tape which I buy from Amazon). I miss my cleavage but I didn't really wear low cut tops before my mx so I have coped ok with that but I do wear quite tight fitting tops now with confidence.
As for telling friends and family, I told close friends who reassured me they loved me for myself and not for how many breasts I have. I did tell aquaintances but with hindsight I probably wouldn't bother doing that again because, without sounding harsh, most people are only really concerned about their own problems and most of them have probably even forgotten about me having a mx. They still send me jokey emails about mammograms and tell jokes about boobs etc so it obviously isn't such a big issue to them.
It is very early days for you but I promise it will get better and you will be happy again and cope with it all. It isn't perfect but definitely doable. I might sound as if I am "sorted" but I cried myself to sleep many times in the early days and I still have a "downer" every so often but I forget about my mx most of the time now.
Lots of love and best wishes
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