Breast Cancer Now Forum

Evening all, Going through all this IS hard. I can understand peoples worries about putting a brave face on things or trying to cope with life and a young family as we would have done when we were well but the fact of it is that we are going through some tough treatment and we need to be kind on ourselves. Sometimes this means letting go of the organising and handing it over to a partner or family member. Sometimes this means graciously accepting offers of help without worrying that we are putting people out. And sometimes this means letting go of the anxiety, letting other people take over for a while and concentrating on resting and getting better. After all, as someone pointed out to me, these are EXCEPTIONAL circumstances and things will not always be as they are right now. Peace and health to you all x ... View more

Hi Sam, I was diagnosed in the summer aged 32 when my girls were 8 months and 2 years. I've had two lots of surgery (to remove the lump and all lymph nodes) and am now half way through 6 cycles of chemo. I've started a thread about coping with chemo and a young family and people have posted some helpful things. It's just helpful to get support from others in the same situation if nothing else. It is REALLY hard with kids. And it's certainly time to pull in any and every favour with family and friends. These are exceptional circumstances after all. I'm already planning a party for all those who have helped us when all this is over - that and a holiday - got to have things to look forward to! Good luck with it all x ... View more

Haven't read through all the posts but love the idea of this thread. It's much like when you're pregnant. You need a bit of TLC and looking after. Our bald heads are a visual indication as to what we're going through, just like a baby bump. ... View more

Have only just found a way to find this post again and I'm so glad I did! Thank you all so much for sharing your stories. It's heartbreaking that we're all going through it but hopefully we can find some support in each other. I've had 3 chemo cycles now so half way through which is good but NOT nearly as good as being at the end. I'm finding them very tough even with a good support network. I CAN NOT wait for them to be over and life to move on in some fashion. Good luck to us all and lots of love x ... View more