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Hiya Jude, I'm originally from Aberdare but now live in Pembrokeshire. ... View more

That would be lovely , will speak later in week to see you how got on and maybe make arrangement. Have good weekend x x ... View more

Thanks for that I'll look into the Maggie's option.I'm goin to Morrison on Friday for my first inflation apt.had words with 'friends' ans they have said sorry bit basically they are too busy to be there for me still,feeling a bit better about it today,maybe it's because I've cleared the air with them and now can move on to making New friends or just being more reliant on myself and family.I don't know really..... Your treatment has been very quick, I tthought mine was,I found it difficult to get head round it sometimes it was happening so fast. I had lumpectomy and they didn't get clear margins either. I have/had grade 3 dcis with no family history.also had 6 nodes removed but they were clear.mother in law has tried to put me on Moravia natural remedies etc.she's a bit bonkers about it all, I'm not convinced bit trying few to keep the peace. Hope you are able to enjoy the weekend without worrying too much about Monday, take care x x ... View more

Hi lols, I had nd in Swansea, morriston hospital.can't really believe it's already been 4 weeks.I was very impressed with the nurses there, made me feel much better about my situation as they took their time to talk to me and help. I haven't been in touch with bcn from withybush much as is hard talking over the phone and I usually find I'm upset more when they are off duty.found this place great but do feel like I need to talk to someone properly. Maybe I need counselling? I have spoken to my sister's friend who has had nd but she lives away so it's not a regular thing. If you've read my above post you can see in having issues with non cancer literate friends,they just don't understand so stay well clear by the looks of things. How long has all your treatment taken to get to this stage if you don't mind me asking? It mjust be hard to still work in way but it's a good distraction too.my toddler is amazing at lifting my down Times when especially awake,but I try not to be upset and crying in front of her. I'd love a boy next,had planed to start tryin but this all happened. Nevermind, plenary of time and all that jazz.I'm 31 in couple of weeks, think in a way that makes it harder to accept but then on the other hand in young and fit enough to get tthrough it with out too many holdouts hopefully. I'm originally from Aberdare so not too far away from family and know Swansea for shopping trips. Hope your evening in work wasn't too stressful or hot,take care and would love to speak more, Laura x z ... View more

I lived in Oxford for a summer when doing placement, Whitney? It's beautiful there too,but yeah one long drive.I went in in the Tuesday evening, surgery Wed morning and was out on the Monday.I had one drain in rlight side and two in left. Not gonna lie the one in the right was horribly painful to cone out, it was in very deep and guess it's because all the tissue is still the're in that breast so hurt alot more.they put me on a morphine drip controllers by me ans also had paracetamol, tramadol and ibuprofen so eexpect to be a zombie for first couple of days. My advice would be to take any painkillers when you can, the pain creeps up on you. I was super hot in hospital and it was before the heat wave so had a fan constantly going.the nurses were brilliant and I had the same as you with different people saying different things. I just asked main consultant and went with what he said.when is your op? I tried to do as much fun stuff as I could before going in but it's still frustratingly boring afterwards.do you have any hobbies that aren't too strenuous? I knit and am also into my gardening but have to do little bits.the running and swimming have to wait a little whole longer. I have a 16month old daughter and that's when I've found it the hardest. Not being able to cuddle or pick her up,getting easier now but still very limited. Take care,Laura x x ... View more

Heya Zuleika, thanks for replying.glad it's not just me being emotional and hormonal then.a friend has just been messaging me and said it's because ahe doesn't know what to say and can't afford to buy me flowers.I'm upset she thinks that thats all I would want from her, shes recently been through some really tough family stuff and I was there for her even though I had no clue how to help. Friends of my mother in law who I've meet alot as they have children the same age of my daughter have been amazing and it helps lots but still hard to talk to them properly. I had two Becker implants fitted. I'm very small and the right side has been inflated to a b cup.(wasn't even an a before so this is taking some getting used to lol) the mx side has a tiny inflation and going next week to have first proper one done.the consultant said this way was best for me and his preferred way so.... I had quite alot of skin taken away during mx op as lost nipple and has large scar area from lumpectomy. Where about are you? It's lovely down in pembs,perfect for trips of you have family here too. I've been here about 10years now and can't see us living anywhere else unless we have a big lotto win. How are you feeling about the pending op?I was fine until night before. I've sptoken to and seen a lady who had expander and it looks great. She's been really helpful to me. Take care of you too, Laura x ... View more

Heya ladies sorry I've not replied as been in for the mx and immediate recon. Had a single mx but implants on both. It's been 4 weeks since op and had few up and down ddays.today physically has been great, didn't wake up in pain and been able to do a few jobs without worry.the problem I have at the moment is friends or lack of. The people who have shown the most concern have bbeen people I hardly know, New colleagues etc and people I know through other people. Those people whom I thought were friends have hardly bothered.is it just they don't know what to say or do I need to walk away from those friendships? This is the time I've needed them the moat and they have all let me down. Am I being too sensitive? Caused an argument with the husband tonite so he's buggered off with his mates. I'm jealous I guess too of how others seems to have their besties no matter what?any advice please????the cancer at the moment seems like a pesky annoyance and this is upsetting Me much more. ... View more

Hello diamondlady, I feel your anguish and dread. So many questions and the inability to explain to others what it is exactly you feel, as there are so many emotions. I'm having a mx with immediate recon and having the other breast augmented at same time on Wed. Being young, 30 I felt this was right for me. I have a high grade dcis which they removed with 6 nodes in May but didn't get clear margins hence the mx decision. Im fed up with all the trips and ops but this way I don't need any radiotherapy or drugs.its feels extreme but as o have a toddler I need to get it sorted asap so we can get back to normality,if that's ever possible. I've started to feel scared and nervous and also getting ready to say my goodbyes. I choose the immediate reconstruction as I couldn't face nothing there even though I am already small breasted, I couldn't face the thought of having nothing. The waiting must be hard for you,more time to analyze things.I'm glad mine has been quite quick in coming but also it's scary. I hope things get easier for you soon, although I fear like for most thelse feeling we are experiencing will stay with us for a long time. Lots of love and support Laura x ... View more

Hiya Jenny, sorry to hear your news. It's so hard to get your head around it all ans I doubt anyone ever really does. I sis alot of research into the different reconstruction options but didn't decide until speaking to the consultant.had thought the back flap was the best for me but after seeing his folder of past patients, which was very out dated I changed my mind. He gave me details of the different ops and checked me over.said he would struggle to get enough skin from my back and stomach because I'm slight. I initially was scared of implants due to the need to have them redone,leakages etc.....the surgeon will advise you what he thinks is the one whinch will be the most successful for you.its hard putting your life in someone else's hands but they do ops often and have experience etc.where about are you?have you a strong network of support? I'm here anytime of you need anything, take care x x ... View more

Hello Amanda, I had snb ans lumpectomy in May also. I've very small breasted and the affected breast now has a dent on the underneath section that goes pretty much the width of the breast. I had a high grade dcis ans although they took a lump of 13g they disn't get clear enough margins so am having a mx on the coming wed with immediate reconstruction and augmentation on right breast so they mag h again.it's not an easy decision to make but having a further lumpectomy would not only leave my left breast very awkwardly shaped bit the consultant couldn't be positive it had affected nipple so best from me to remove all the affected area and at least my mind can rest. I agree with Faye about mentioning the New lump, it's best to get that checked and sorted as soon as possible and don't worry about them thinking your paranoid...your not but you have every right to be concerned considering what else has been going on. I often feel like I'm bothering the consultant and nurses with silly questions but that's what they ate there for.hope your apt went well today for you.take care Laura x ... View more

Hello melena, how are you feeling now? Found your post this morning,I'm having my mx next week with immediate reconstruction and have been feeling the same as you. Heads in a fog and have so many questions that realistically can only be answered by me after the surgery, how will it feel, how long does it take to heal etc. was that I might be away from my baby for so long, and that I won't be able to hold and cuddle her properly but now this is much better than the thought I'm not with her at all. talking to others who are or have gone through all this really helps and I hope your doing well. Take care and rest x ... View more

Thankyou all for your messages of advice and support. Meet with consultant and going ahead with nd and immediate reconstruction with Becker implant in left and Becker implant in the right to valence things out.got pre op Apr tomz ans surgery the following week.still very nervous about it all but best options as I'm slight and Surgeon said he wasn't certain the akin flap options would be the best. Worried about the end result and future surgery....suppose still the fact that I have cancer and need a mx is still a bizarre concerpt to me to be honest. Guessing it's still going to take a while to properly process it all. How so yout all cope with getting your head around it????beat way I can describe it is my head is in a fog, like a dream or tv drama that I'm watching from the sidelines unfolding in front of my eyes and I can't do anything about it ... View more

Aw I'm sorry to hear that about your daughter. Its a very hard decision to make ans I can empathise with her,especially being newly married. It worried me alot initially as we have only been married 2 yrs and I wonder how it will affect relationship. Send her my regards and welcome pass on my details if she want to speak to someone else.x x I've bought two sports bras that the consultant recommended but will take a look at those sleep bras too.thanks. I'll have to train the hubby on the hovering then ;-).not having anything else done to node thank goodness as that was the worse bit.I should be ok then,well better than I expected all going well. Meeting pre op team in morning,not sure why apt is a week apart from op date but nevermind. Thanks again and hope you keep improving. Will keep you updated x ... View more

Hi Wendy, sorry to hear you have problems, but good that the other is doin well.I'm 30 ans have very small boobs anyways so seeing a flat cheat is nothing new to me haha! Surgeon is going to put a 300 in the bc side and a 200 on the other I think.Im having mx as they disn't get clear margins from dcis high grade tumour.had lumpectomy and snb done 4 weeks ago and healing nicely so thinking I should heal well from next lot of surgery. How did you manage with daily activities? I struggled initially after first surgery especially as I have an 18month old daughter. Worries me having both breasts and possibly arms out of action as I woby be able to pick her up :-(.hope you carry on healing well and your reply has reassured me already that it won't be that bad,thankyou x ... View more

Hiya Lins, sorry to hear your in same position, how is the treatment going? Hope it's not been too awful for you.my apt for mx is on 26th of this month so not long to go.having immediate reconstruction wwith Becker implant. Can I ask did you have skin or implant done? Wondering how painful it all is and rough timescale for recovery. I'm having it done because they didn't get clear margins during lumpectomy. I have high grade dcis and nothing more sinister was found either in tumour or nodes so after nd I won't need any chemo or radiotherapy. Hope your doing ok,speak soon Laura x ... View more

Hiya Lins, sorry to hear your in same position, how is the treatment going? Hope it's not been too awful for you.my apt for mx is on 26th of this month so not long to go.having immediate reconstruction wwith Becker implant. Can I ask did you have skin or implant done? Wondering how painful it all is and rough timescale for recovery. I'm having it done because they didn't get clear margins during lumpectomy. I have high grade dcis and nothing more sinister was found either in tumour or nodes so after nd I won't need any chemo or radiotherapy. Hope your doing ok,speak soon Laura x ... View more