Breast Cancer Now Forum

ST The camp fire is burning brightly awaiting your return from your hols. I have bottled some choice rude words that you can release whenever you need a good rant. I found BringitOn asleep in the bushes. I woke her up sharpish and washed her off with the hose. She is now fresh as a daisy and ready for action. See you in the JM soon for cocktail night. X ... View more

Just thought I would wander in to the woods for a nostalgic walk around. Very quiet and peaceful today. A far cry from some of the raucus behaviour in days gone by after a merry night in the JM. I will remember with fondness all of the Woodies who joined forces to get through terrible times. Raise your glasses to our dear friends who can no longer wander in for a visit. Your humour, laughter and determination will live on in these woods forever. To all Woodland graduates, I salute you! Wishing the best of health to all x   ... View more

Hi I call in to the site from time to time. I'm now 2 years on to where you are. It's ok to be scared. I thought I was going to die and was planning my funeral. This site really helped me and I linked up with others and we shared our fears. I was grade3 stage 3 and had mx chemo rads and now tamoxifen. It's a huge thing to deal with but keep posting on here and you will find others like you and share experiences. I am out the other side now and although things will never quite be the same I am still me and loving life. Wishing you all the best. x ... View more

I can remember the horror of dx day and instead of returning to work as planned I went straight to bed and stayed there. I think there is so much to take in even the strongest of us fall apart for a while. This is when you appreciate the ones you love and let them hold your hand through this bit. Your colleagues and acquaintances won't know what to say to you so don't feel bad about withdrawing yourself away from what you can't cope with. Your boys will get through it in their own way. I know my children were amazing. The important thing is to be honest with them about how you are feeling and stick together as a family unit. I look back now at the horror of it all but I really believe it made my children better human beings. They learned about responsibility and compassion. This is big stuff and you need time. Be kind to yourself. xx ... View more

I can remember the horror of dx day and instead of returning to work as planned I went straight to bed and stayed there. I think there is so much to take in even the strongest of us fall apart for a while. This is when you appreciate the ones you love and let them hold your hand through this bit. Your colleagues and acquaintances won't know what to say to you so don't feel bad about withdrawing yourself away from what you can't cope with. Your boys will get through it in their own way. I know my children were amazing. The important thing is to be honest with them about how you are feeling and stick together as a family unit. I look back now at the horror of it all but I really believe it made my children better human beings. They learned about responsibility and compassion. This is big stuff and you need time. Be kind to yourself. xx ... View more

Thankyou so much for sharing your" journey. " I read it and it brought back the enormity of what some have been through.I totally agree it is like a slow car crash and now the other side of active treatment, I am still nursing my injuries physically and emotionally. Sharing experiences with others on this site got me through the rough bits and I am so grateful to have this place to turn to if I am having a negative day. I still get them but less often now. It's onwards and upwards for me while I have the chance. Family and friends are more precious. My time is precious. I spend time with the people I love and do the things I want to do. I have never met most of the people on here but I have felt their friendship and support when I needed it. Keep sharing everyone! Love to you all xx ... View more

Hang in there Applestreet. I was like this a year ago and the citalopram 10g really helped. It took a few days to settle in. I only wake once or twice a night now and drift back off quite quickly. It's amazing how much better I feel now 🙂 x ... View more

Thinking of you and hoping all goes well x ... View more

Lovely afternoon with Claredroppers. Loving my Happy Bag. I will be getting a supply of them in. www.pixiehappybags.com Great food and people. Good times xx ... View more

Sorry to hear Verity C and Moser won't be coming tomorrow:( There are a few speed traps in Oxon Revcat, so I will take it steady. Looking forward to raising a glass (lemonade or similar) to Clare. xx ... View more

Hi I am 18 month post chemo and I gave up waiting for my hair to grow back and now have a new wig. I hated wearing a wig through chemo and wore hats/scarves. I waited and waited patiently as everyone said it WILL grow back but it hasn't. I have soft fuzzy hair with male pattern baldness. There was a thread recently about this problem. After a bit of googling I am finding out that TAX chemo could be the culprit and in as many as 5% of cases hairloss is permanent. There has been a study done in France and there is an article on PUBMED but I'm sorry I don't know how to do a link. There is a lady under the name of lazycat on here who is trying weaving as an alternative to a wig. I'm waiting to see how she gets on with it as I might consider giving it a try. I have never been a vain person and didn't mind too much when I lost my hair as I thought it would grow back. I am learning to come to terms with my looks but I will admit it has been very hard for me. I did not use the cold cap and I'm wondering now if that would have made a difference. I always feel so guilty about moaning about it as I know I am so fortunate to be NED and getting on with life. I draw in my eyebrows and use cheap false lashes for going out. Nice not to have to get rid of hair in the unwanted places though. My new wig was cut by a Trevor Sorbie salon who cut wigs for free. It does look really good and not "wiggy" so I am feeling much happier to glance in a mirror now and again. It cost 79 pounds in total which is close to what I used to spend for cut colour and highlights befor BC. Hugs to all fellow baldies xx ... View more

Me too!!! A large glass of prosecco as I recall SCACO recommending it. Bottoms up woodies xxx ... View more

A bright star shining above the woods. So sad for you family and friends. xxxx ... View more

Like Mezzomamma I'm off to light a candle in her memory. xxx ... View more

Devastated!! Rest In Peace darling girl. I will always remember our time in the woods and how you made me smile through the worst of tmes xxxx ... View more

Good news indeed that SCACO is feeling better. White transit van ready and available for the mission. Just got to dump OH's plumbing tools and find a dustpan and brush. Thanks for updat Alto. ... View more

I don't come on to this site so much these days but Clare really touched my heart with her honesty, humour and kindness. sadly I never got to meet her but I would love to join you all and raise a glass to her. Oxford is my patch so easy for me. x ... View more

I have met so many fit and healthy women that have been struck down the BC so I find the research and comments in the press puzzling. I I had my children young, (5) breastfed, couldn't afford to drink lol!, Not overweight, homecooked healthy food and homegrown veg and fruit. Plenty of housework too. As Revcat said. I just happen to have breasts and that is the biggest risk factor of all. As for the stress thing, I can time a stressful time at work to the beginning of changes to my body. I was fobbed off by GP and sent home to take evening primrose oil as I was perimenopausal. BC strikes at random though and the only common denominator seems to be breasts!x ... View more

Hi Gail. I decided not to use the cold cap as my chemo unit was a long way from home and I didn't fancy spending any more time than was necessary there. I lost my thick mop of hair as I was told I would and was "shiny" bald with not a hair to be seen! I have to be honest and tell you that my hair hasn't grown back how I had hoped. I have male pattern baldness so none on top and sparse at the front. This is 18 months post chemo. My onc is gutted for me and said it is very unusual. I'm left wondering whether I should have used the cold cap. I have come to terms with my hair and have a good wig now. I would say to you if the cold cap is available take the opportunity. I am not vain and told myself that hairloss was going to be fine. And it was... until it didn't grow back. Hairloss was a bigger deal than I thought it would be.x ... View more

Support party for SCACO sounds brilliant. She deserves a good do after the past few weeks. We should have a woodie meeting to discuss. Loving the bagpipes Margaret. You are improving with practise 🙂 Theres seems to be a lack of chocolate around here so I will hunt for a new supply to keep our energy levels up. I read somewhere this week that it is now considered a" superfood." I knew it all along. Much love to all x ... View more