Breast Cancer Now Forum

I gained about 15 lbs (about 1 stone) after starting tamoxifen almost 5 years ago.  I had to quit Arimidex because of joint pain so severe I had trouble functioning.  I get to stop the tamoxifen in mid-January, and my oncologist thinks I will be able to lose some weight then.  I can't wait! ... View more

A lovely balanced post Charys. Like you I admire Winnerwinner for her upbeat approach to her diagnosis and treatment and wish her well, AND I subscribe to the "Moderation in all things" philosophy, or "A little of what you fancy does you good," (sung suggestively in true music-hall fashion!) Like many others on here i made some lifestyle changes after my diagnosis which i hope will ensure a long and healthy life, but there are no guarantees - all sorts of people get cancer, and recurrences, whether they are fat or thin; fit or couch potatoes; veggie, vegan or carnivore; tea-total or tipplers; so the key thing is for people to feel OK about how they are living their lives and not feel they did anything to cause it if they get cancer, or a recurrence, and for them to BE HAPPY as much as possible. x ... View more

Wooo... we have all flown off, but will still remember our flutterby days. 7 years free now and STILL on letrazole ☹️ But grateful to be here. I wish medics of any sort would think to ask "is there any lasting difference from before you had cancer " or words to that effect! Bless you all. I have retired now! ... View more

Hello,Shay ,the anxious waiting for these appointments is really awful but the vast majority of women who post here find that there is a non sinister explanation for their symptoms - hopefully you will get an Appointment soon. Best wishes .Jill . ... View more

Dear Aditi As a recently diagnosed mum with a 16 yr old doing GCSEs at the moment, I was very touched by your post. Like your mum, my biggest fear is the impact on my daughter's exams and her longer term prospects so I am trying to get to the point with her where we have fun and relax together talking about the silly things rather than the dreaded gremlin. This helps her relax and I feel much happier as well. I have also made it clear to her that I don't want her trawling the Internet as so much info on cancer is out of date and misleading. Also, each cancer and each persons treatment is so individual so better to go with what my own plan is and don't panic by reading something that may not be appropriate. So, my advice to you and any others in your situation would be to be there as you are for mum, have those fun chats, however mundane they may seem and keep making her proud. Hard work will also help keep you occupied during the difficult times. Very best wishes xxxx ... View more

thats great news!! I am in the middle of radiotherapy and apart from the time it takes it is not at all unpleasant. Make sure she knows how many hours it is going to take out of her day and ask her what she is going to stop doing each day to compensate. some people, especially those who work or have young families try to fit it all in, but if you can just relax and make rooom for it you are less likely to get tired. ... View more

I have had these feelings too. When I was diagnosed Nov 2010 I just got on with it was brave didnot ask for help. At the end of active treatment in the june I felt just as you do now. It did not come easy but I decided to think of myself more in all areas of my life.I did less people pleasing and became alittle more assertive. Have just had LD flap reconstruction and this time have accepted any offers of help and told people how I am feeling. Made things so much easier for myself.I think you need to be really kind to yourself accept how you are feeling. I would accept any councelling or other offers of help for yourself. Also think of things you would like to do and do them.Thinking of you ... View more

Her and your husband can be their own little support group, I'm sure they'll be able to talk to each other when they don't want to worry you with their concerns. And well done her for your PJs and hospital bag, I reckon she'll be brilliant. ... View more