I did not think that this was all about Bernie Nolan, I thought it was all about 'Living with Secondary Breast cancer'.
Over the years we have frequently mentioned lots of women who have had the misfortune to join this club.
If she wanted to be in la la land regarding her original diagnosis then that was her choice.
However there will have been thousands of ladies ( and men) with a secondary diagnosis, biting their tongues.
As has been stated, the 'battled with', or 'beaten cancer' metaphors wear a bit thin, in fact they become abhorrent when you are 'losing the battle'.
I have been using this site almost as long as it has been here. This argument has continued relentlessly. Rather than having completely separate forums, BCC decided to include them together but clearly labelled. If you do not want to explore the reality of secondary breast cancer, just do not read it !!!!If you want to stay in your bubble that is fine. Once again this thread is under a secondary section................
I do understand, in the early days I would avoid the secondary section at all costs. It was somewhere I did not want to read about. I did venture in at particularly dark times and it was good to know it was there.
On my secondary diagnosis, the site was ( and is) invaluable. As we are mainly sidelined by the media, Breast Care services and sometimes our Oncologists and Family; we need somewhere where we can find truth, honesty and real life experience.
Lizcat was not being insensitive to Bernie Nolan. Lizcat is one of the most sensitive and caring people I have had the pleasure to meet. She is hoping, as am I that such a well known and popular celebrity having a secondary diagnosis, may actually highlight the forgotten bunch that we are, the dark side of pink and fluffy. Maybe some recognition will be given to our diagnosis.
We all try to lead full lives and we are aware that cancer isnt everything....Just sometimes, when we feel that it is, it is good to be able to go somewhere where people understand.
julie
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