Breast Cancer Now Forum

Thanks Patriciamay   I have managed to get myself a bit more toghether over the last few days and have thrown myself into work so I am not thinking about it all the time.   You are so right - it does feel so much worse this time knowing what might be ahead of me - again!    I've also found that I don't want to committ to doing anything socially until Thursday is out the way - again very much how I felt when first diagnosed.     If it has come back, I know that I will be in good hands so I'll put myself back in the care of the NHS for now.   Thanks for your support - really appreciate it. Will let you know how I get on xx ... View more

Hi Charlie - have you had a planning session yesterday? That was when they discussed with me about moisturising and keeping hydrated - the skin can become very dry and itchy if not moisturised I was told. The drinking helps with the tiredness - Body is working hard to replace the cells being killed by rads with healthy ones so fluids help. Have you had a booklet about it? If not look up info on BCC site as they produce the booklet. There are also other threads on this subject if you search . I had a WLE not a mastectomy somyou might want to chat with someone who has and had rads . Good luck with your treatment .  ... View more

Since I was diagnosed with breast cancer .. I too have aged at least ten years.. I was lucky to look twenty years younger than I actually am.. , well before the cancer treatment that followed My mastectomy It was just before my 57th birthday and I was told I looked 37 .. The chemo is what has aged me most .. And the tamoxifen is aging me more.. Making me put on more weight .. and because of the liver damage from the chemo treatment that’s aging me too .. The tamoxifen is aging my skin greatly and my muscles are going south now 😔 .. Keep strong Alexa ❤️ X ... View more

Hi S   I am so sorry to hear about your mum, it's a nightmare and no amount of positive thinking helps in the night time when you are awake and worrying,     my mother had leukaemia,  like you I changed my life to spend my time with her, I gave up my promotion and flat to move back to my home town so I could be close to home.   I have never regretted my decision but it really took it's toll on me and my life, I suffered from severe depression for a while.  I think one problem you have is that you don't really know what's going on. If your mother has instructed doctors to withhold information from your family then they have no choice. However you need help for yourself. My mother's doctors told us in the end that it would be a few weeks at one point but they were wrong and we had her for months.   The macmillan nurses can help with counseling, or maybe your GP could arrange for you to speak to someone. I think you need some support away from the situation, just for yourself,  you are trying to stay strong for your family but you need to keep a little something back for yourself.   I hope you get the help and support you need.   take care   Keeks     ... View more

Hi Amanda,    I'm so sorry and I can completely relate to what you're feeling. My situation is similar to yours - Mum is divorced and I'm the sole carer. I found out last week but she's still undergoing tests to check where and if it's spread before they decide on treatment. I have a partner who's been great but this is just the beginnng and I'm not doing a good job of holding it together at all.    How are you doing now and what type of breast cancer does your mother have? (if you don't mind me asking).    I hope things have gotten someway better for you since you posted this, I know how gut wrenching it feels.  ... View more