Hi Abi Reading your post, this is the same as me. I was diagnosed with invasive ductal breast cancer Stage 3, Waited 13 weeks for a mammogram after my first appointment because cancer specialist said it wasn't cancer just inflammation. I have secondary in the lungs now ,which they say are very small. My cancer in the breast was first measured as 45mm and has shrunk considerably ,i'm just waiting for a Pet Scan to see how its going. Just finished my last Fec-t last week had 6. I am 48 with 4 grown up children, Well my youngest, my daughter is 20. I have 5 grandchildren. I consider myself lucky i can spend some guality time with them. But this last chemo really knocked me for six. I split from my husband of 30 years back in April 2014,so had a tough 6 months. Getting back to your question, i never no what to ask the Oncologist specially after a scan or test. I wasn't expecting to be told my cancer had spread,i just thought i'm strong i have a great support network from friends and family i beat this. I feel not so sure now. But i'm sure we will all have doubts and bad and good days. Like you i am determined to stay around as long as possible. I think we just need to talk out and fight our corner, don't be fobbed off by anyone make sure they offer you more treatment and ask the side affects. If they will let you ask to record the meeting. This helps you go back over what they have said as you cant take it all in at once. Good LUCK X And keep fighting. Dawn xx
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