Breast Cancer Care Forum

Corr, Well done Juicy-Janey. Bloomin marvellous, woman!! Hope you're well. And Hi - Lush (Lesley, that is!). So good to see and hear from you. MenoP hot flushes - umph, sorry to report, I'm same after 10 yrs. Just keep adding more ice to your G n T's, darlin girl!!   Loads of love to everyone  Delly xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx ... View more

Mmmm, isn't it very much down to the difference between "empathy" and "sympathy"?? "Empathy" being that of a "shared" experience, a  shared actual "KNOWING" experience. And  "Sympathy", being a "trying", and a "wishing" to understand/see what you're feeling, going through, but NOT having experienced it.  Is why this Forum is so good to reach out to, and be able to share with alike experienced people.   I have had my fair share of what I consider "ignorant" comments, often said with the "best of intentions". E.g. to my being single and boob less -  "You'll find someone who loves you as you are"!!! Yes, thank you. But, DOH, If I'm not happy looking at myself, I'm certainly not gonna be happy with anyone else looking at me, am I?! How many times I must have said such, each time with increasing annoyance. But felt it important to "inform" such people, so they could gain a better understanding.    Awww, jennyj - I am actually massively impressed by your hubby's concern, care, support. Sounds like ENCOURAGEMENT to me.  Him wanting to bolster you up!! It may not be in the way, or using the words you would use or wish to hear, but all seems very loving to me. Bless him I think we do need to remember, how awkward and difficult it can be for others to deal with. Yeh, can also be very annoying though.   Much love xxxx ... View more

Coo-ee to Corr-Clairee and Charys, + Ann and Darlin-Dizz So lovely to see youhoo's. Hope you are well.  I've just sent a message to Rubycat. Has anyone heard anything from her?? Or Lesley and BethyBoo?? I'm hoping ALL of you are well Loads of love, Delly's big hugs and xxxxxxxxxxxxxx 's ... View more

Crikey Kate I'm sooo very sorry to hear of your problems. I hope you are much better now, are you?? Where are you up to with things now? Please let us know. Loads of love to you xxxx Love to everyone else too xxx ... View more

Zena Hi, I hope you're still doing well, are you? xxx ... View more

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Hey Tristana   How the flip are you doing, girl?? Please would you let us know.   Docraney12, I'm intrigued to know more about your mentioned "new reformed medical solution"??   Lots of love to everyone xxxxxx ... View more

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Typical Me - I was just surprised, but pleased your appointment came up so much more quickly than you expected. I'm all with Evie on the age thing. I'm now 60. Was 55 when finally embarked on bi-lateral delayed implant recon, following masts at 47 and 48, so yeh, many years delayed, just due to other unexpected life's brown stuff, that can come along. And hence why I'd have been faaar happier having immediate recon same time as masts. Would have all been done and finished long ago. And why I would always advise anyone to have immediate if poss, obviously dependent on whether radiotherapy was required, and its effects on the skin, as with yourself, as to whether it be possible. Again, I don't have any issues about or with infection. Have had none throughout both masts or expander installation (sounds like a boiler!! ). Of course there are risks of infection with ANY op. They have to warn us. But, I have to say, Typical Me, I'm a little surprised at your BCN almost "dwelling" on infection, from what you're saying, rather than being supportive to you for recon. Would that be something to do with you being Celiac perhaps?? Mystery Mouse mentions a lady in her 70's awaiting "self tissue" recon - Very brave, self tissue at her age, because, both you're healing and infection fighting abilities tend to reduce with age. But, Wow, good for her, I say. Blummin Brill in fact. Also Evie's attitude "I don't think ANY age should be a barrier to having reconstruction" and "you can be grateful to be here and STILL have recon". How succinct is that. At the end of the day, TM, it's whats going to make you feel happiest and the most comfortable with your body, after such an awful, and what is frankly a "maiming" physical experience with a mastectomy (I certainly felt "maimed" after my 2nd mast), as well as the mental trauma of course, for what you have left of your life. And yes, of course, there are plenty of women, for whom it isn't such an issue to be without and "choose" to remain flat. Are okay with it, as have posted on here. That's great also.  Is it vanity? Well what if it IS? So what!  Many years ago, we wouldn't have had the option of reconstruction, would we?  But . . . Why has it been more and more developed? It's gone from delayed "basic" stuck on implants, to tear drop shaped, to "immediate" implants same time as mastectomy, to give an immediate replacement of what was lost. Then to all the different areas of the body to have "self tissue" recon from - tummy, back, buttocks, inner thighs. Then Strattice slings developed for implants, for a more natural look/finish when moving ones arm. Why?? I can only presume because so many women would rather have an integrated bodily replacement, than just a prothesis, otherwise such methods wouldn't have been developed, would they??    If the option's there, and it's possible with what other treatment effects have had on your skin, why the heck not, I say. 50 is NO age these days, neither is 60 any more. You may live on to 70, 80, 90+, who the flip knows. But surely better, with what makes you feel happiest. And T.M., as I said before, I was massively impressed with what your oncologist said to you about implants, he was actually wanting and wishing to set your mind at rest. Sounds a good 'un to me. Please do keep us informed, will you. I'm very keen to hear. Evie - That's great you've made an appointment to check out your possibilities - No harm hey, just a bit of time to give up, but that could possibly give and bring you happier results. I hope it IS simple to rectify for you, and if so, you go for it, darlin girl. Again, I'm so interested to hear.   Loads of love to everyone, Dellypoos, xxxxxxxxx       ... View more

Still no news from Tor. You okay, flower??   Typical Me - Has your earlier than expected appointment given you the eebie-geebies?? Coo, fantastic. I would strongly advise though, that you ask for the more natural "anatomically" tear drop shaped implants, I've mentioned. They make a big difference to the resulting shape, and probably a more natural match to your own existing one, in that they have/give a more natural "drape" or "droop" look, rather than an unnatural 1/2 sphere/ball "stuck on" look. But hey, I'm presuming there, that your own existing boob doesn't stick out like half a tennis or football?! It may do??!!, but I'm doubting it. No offence meant there, flower Well, I think that's great, and hope it goes well for you darlin'. Please, please keep us in touch with how it's all going with you, won't you. I'm dying to know. I think you'll be very pleased.    Loads of love from Dellywelly xxxxxxxxx ... View more

Am still waiting, on myself really, to have op to replace expanders with permanent silicones. Keep putting on hold for other things, now eye lasering and knee arthroscopy tidy-up op. Previously, it was until I was in a better mental state and life more sorted. Am also conscious about anaesthetic - too much too frequently, knee op requires one, eye doesn't. I can only deal with one thing at a time, Evie. Unlike the majority of women are purported to be, I'm not a multitasking one!!    xxx  ... View more

HERE HERE Chick!!! Clap, clap, clap. Tristana - How are you?? xxxxx ... View more

Evie - Hello sweetie. I undertook a great deal of research into implants, prior to embarking on, especially the more "natural" anatomically tear drop shaped ones, made by Allergan, a British company, whose implants go under the name of Natrelle (I even stumbled on and applied for a job with them during my research in 2014, as a NW rep, but couldn't get my application in on time for the deadline ). The roughened outer surface shell is to help prevent "capsulation", a fibrous tissue capsule that can form, a bodily reaction that can occur more so with the smooth outer shelled ones. So I presume that is why smooth shelled implants aren't used in this country. Evie, I feel that's such a shame that it's slightly larger than your natural one. Not having one to match up to, it isn't a prob when bilateral, more about getting them "level" . I'm not so sure how easy it would be to have it replaced, with you also having a Strattice (tissue matrix) sling. I know without, it would have been very simple to replace to a slightly smaller one, through an excision in your existing scar. I wonder if it might be worth you asking about, get them evened up and get without the extra prosthesis you said you're having to use? Could be easier and simpler than you think? Lots of love to everyone xxxxxxxx ... View more

Lee - Ohhhh what? - WhoooHoooo. That is the BEST piece of news. I am so blummin pleased and glad for you. I hope you two are doing something special to celebrate. Another excuse for a thread party. I'll bring the cakes (without fluff)   Hoping everyone else is keeping well Lots of love to you all, Delly  xxxxxxxxxxxx ... View more

Sorry for being naughty Warcol    x   Bud ... View more

Smell  !!!   x (ha ha Wombat - Mmmm, Yeh. I was expecting "beans" (or f**ting fodder as I call it) to cause some reference to "wind"!  x) ... View more

Tor - How are you doing? Are you still umming and aarh-ing, decision wise??   Typical Me - Hi again. Both of my masts (2006 and 07) included full ANC, so like you, no nodes at all. Personally, I have no issues or worries about today's implants. Again, I think you'll find, that all the scares of silicone in lymph nodes were related to the PIP "unapproved" silicone implants. There's a separate thread on the Forum, about some issues with silicone leakage and lymph nodes, but are from PIP implants that were installed a long time ago, 19 yrs in one case. Your own consultant sounded to be strongly supportive of, and "pro" implants, which surely must be of huge reassurance? Yeh, she is a love that Evie woman   Lots of love to everyone  xxxxxx    ... View more

Beans  x (Hi Wombat Woo - we've chatted on a few threads. Hope you're well are you? x)  ... View more

Tor - Hope you're doing okay and aren't getting and feeling too bogged down with decision options. Have you managed to reach any decision yet? Wondered if you might be able to ask see photos of previous reconstructions, both tissue and implant ones, at your beast unit. My breast care nurse showed me a whole load to compare. My suggestion of "implant" recon, was based on your self employed time constraints, and other factors you stated in your previous posts.   Typical Me - I hope your skin IS suitable for implant recon, and that you go for it.   Evie - Hello again flower. Soooo, are you "happy" with your implant recon?? You didn't say. Think Tor may find it useful to know. Though immediate recon, is quite different from "delayed", which would be what Tor would be having, same as myself. I've just edited my earlier post, to include, that some of the older type silicone implants had "unapproved" silicon (PIP), that caused a lot of recent scares and bad press. Current ones are that much more stringently tested, plus the outer shells are that much better, to prevent the risk of rupture.   Hope everyone is well. Lots of love to you all. Delly xxxxxxxxxx  ... View more

Aaaaaaahh Lee? Fffffffflllipp WHAT?????? !!!!!!!!!!!! In the words of our Victor Meldrew character - I don't  BELIEEEEVE  IT!!  I'm soo sorry to hear your ultra cra**y news. It totally goes without saying, I sincerely hope it's something other. As you said, "what" could have survived your chemo treatment. Not surprised you're nervous. ANYone would be. Fingers are massively crossed for you, darlin. Not glad to hear about Tone's elbow op infection, but glad to hear it's now under control, and subsided. That's a great photo of you two. Just an amusing aside, you and Tone look to have similar "noses". Perhaps that's the secret to choosing the right mate, not their other attributes or protrusions, hey??!! I'm being naughty, sorry!!!!! For goodness sake, let us know your results, will yer pleeease  xxxx << two each, one per cheek. (Erm, that's "face" cheeks, you two. Behave!) x   Helena - Are you and Col doing okay? Is he any less grumpy??!!   Hope everyone else is good, well, and happy (or 'ish) Lotsa love, Doolally xxxxxxxxxxxxx  ... View more