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"HI" to all you girls on here I haven't been on the Forum for a while, but still receive emails of any posts, and I just couldn't HELP but reply to those from here. I'm LOVING your FANTASTIC support to each other. You're soo flippin (polite F word!!) YOUNG to be having to go through this. PLUS with young kids too!!! I had none of your considerations - 1st boob at 46, 2nd at 47, with NO partner or kids to have to think about.   I soo feel for you, and just wanted to send you LOADS of LOVE, HEALING thoughts, and STRENGTH to keep kicking that BC BUTT, girls Delly xxXXxx Ps. Helen - Have you ever tried Hypnotherapy? It has a more DIRECT mental impact/results than "Talk" therapies. Would recommend finding an RTT (Rapid Transformational Therapy) hypnotherapist if possible. But otherwise check what qualifications they have. xXx  ... View more

@Wonky  - Hellooo, my darlin'. Am just checking in on you.  How ARE you doing?? Are you okay? Feeling more settled again?? Just checked back to my last post - I don't know why there was so much empty space/"fresh air" at the end of it!??? Have you had your Mammo results back yet?? Am sending you this stunning, beeautiful l'il critter, to cheer you  🤗    Loadsa love, Dellywellydingdong X ❤️ X  ... View more

Hi again, ladies I shall make a point of reading the GSM booklet. Despite currently being single, and without boobs (need to get back on that recon horse, girls!), I still remain hopeful, ref finding a suitable partner for a "Happily Ever After" ending!!  🤗 Don't know if any of you read The Mail, but here's a link to the article on HRT, by Mariella Frostrup, I mentioned. It's informative, educating, illuminating, BUT also VERY upsetting, in the degree that Menopause can and does affect certain women  ☹️ Frankly, frightening, and "shocking"!!! https://www.dailymail.co.uk/debate/article-10752561/The-shortage-menopause-drugs-isnt-niche-feminist-issue-argues-MARIELLA-FROSTRUP.html She also wrote an article in The Guardian about it:- https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/nov/13/hrt-nice-guidelines-shame-silence-menopause-mariella-frostrup Her fellow campaigner, Davina McCall, also wrote a number of articles in the "major" newspapers:- https://www.newsgroove.co.uk/hrt-crisis-proves-womens-health-isnt-taken-seriously-and-is-a-life-and-death-issue/ Interestingly, 3 wks ago, I put myself on Extra Virgin Oil - Desert spoonful (or a "swig" of!!) 2 X daily, morn + eve, along with Manuka Honey, also 2 X daily. I'm an "alternative" gal, so read Omega oils are "helpful" for mental probs. This is along side daily St Johns Wort. Havta say, I'm feeling a whole lot better, mentally. BUT... I've also noticed my natural "intimate" secretions have also come back to a degree too!!! Was NOT expecting such, so is an added extra bonus.  I'm putting it down to the Olive Oil. But hey, if nowt else, I'm hoping to have the gorgeous skin of an Italian or Spanish "Bella Senorita/Senora"!!!  😄   Try it for a while. Has to be Extra Virgin, though!!! 🤣  Am interested to see if it has the same effects for anyone else.  🤗 Lots of love to you, girls.  From Bella-Della   xX ❤️ Xx             ... View more

@Wonky  - Dear Wonky-Donks,  I appreciate your "praise" and "Thanks", but YOU ALSO helped me too, when I was going through a very difficult mental time, having a massive, prolonged "Downer". I think I "thanked" you for it then (?), but I'm thanking you for it again, now I just ONLY want to hear you to be WELL. Keep posting, Flower ** How long do you have to wait for the Mammo results, Wonky?? ** Lots of love, flower.  Dellypoos X ❤️ X ... View more

@oldgirl  - I forgot to mention, I too was given the option with both - lumpectomy + Rads, or Mastectomy with full node clearance and no Rads. This was 2006 and 07, so PRE Sentinal Node Biopsy/testing, full node clearance was "standard" treatment with masts back then. After a couple of weeks of painful deliberation, I chose the mast/node option for the first, but also with immediate implant reconsruction. The "No Rads" part with the mastectomy being better for the skin for recon. But the immed recon didn't happen anyway, due to a miscommunication about the type of recon I wanted (only ever implant, NOT self tissue). With the second, it wasn't a difficult decision, it not being quite a year after. Just get rid of the Bu**er and deal with recon at a later stage. I know you said you were considering reconstruction, but I'm just giving you my own angle on my two decisions.  Yeh, it makes it that much more difficult, when things still aren't definite, saying "We'll have to see with certain things, as and when we're operating", where they'll carry out  further tests there and then. But, that's often the case with ANY operation - can't see everything from the outside, and may find other things once they've "opened back the body "wrapping paper", so to speak. But, once you've made you're decision, you'll likely feel better, more calmly resolved. Then just give yourself over to, place yourself in the hands of the highly skillful experts, Oldgirl. Sounds like you have another appointment to discuss genetics, so another opportunity for asking other nitty-gritty questions. Start writing them all down, so that you don't leave thinknig, "Blast it, I didn't ask about. . . . "??? And hope you're taking someone/husband(?) with you? Give him a copy of your question list, so he can make sure you don't forget anything, in case you get distracted off on something. Easily done in these appointments - soo much info to take in.  Hope you're managing to sleep.  X ❤️ X     ... View more

Hi Lovelies @CT2021 - Eeeee, congratulations from me too, on getting through all that "Zapping"!!!  🤗   Your poor bod, hey Hope your skin calms and settles down soon, sweetheart. How are your teeth? Or rather the holes where they were removed from?? Golly, girl, now you're having to gird yourself up for the next stage, as well Hope everyone else is doing well??? Especially you, @Purpledaze. Hope you're coping okay, and having plenty of support. Am watching Queenie's celebrations. She looks so much better tonight, quite lovely, plus relaxed and enjoying herself. Have to cut it short to catch the film "Ordinary Love" at 10 on BBC2, about a woman (Lesley Manville) diagnosed with BC, and how she and her husband (Liam Neeson) deal with her diag. Lots of love to EVERY one,  Doolally-Delly  xX ❤️ Xx     ... View more

@oldgirl  - Sorry darlin', a quick PS.  As for " the danger of too much breast being removed near the skin, which may die"? I've never heard that mentioned before, but the surgeons have to "warn" you of any/every "possible" eventualities.  Doesn't mean it'll happen, though. xXx   ... View more

Hi again @oldgirl  - Yes, a longer recovery time for a mast, the scar area being larger than for a lumpectomy> But even so, with both of mine, the scars were completely healed within 2-3 wks, so wasn't very long. I was 46 and 47, so a bit younger than yourself. Much depends on whether you have good healing skin and are healthy. And as @Kitkat23 said, the dressings weren't bulky. I was quite amazed actually, that the Op itself, was no where near as bad as I thought it was going to be, considering what you've just had done!!! I also had all nodes cleared with both. The "recovery" time is more about the after care one the wound has healed, in being persistent and very diligent in exercising to get full movement and strength back in your shoulder and arm muscles as soon as poss. You aren't incapacitated, but just have to be careful, the initial first few weeks, with stretching and sudden arm movements, no lifting, to prevent damage to stitches and wound (so you need a good shopping and chefing servant!!  😉 ) Then, once it's all healed, as I said, it's all about keep working at it with exercises, gently to start, then increasing the stretching more and more. Took around two months with each to get back to full normal range of movement and strength again, but I was doing my exercises 5 X a day, rather than the rec'd 3 X though!! Simply to get back to norm as soon as poss, plus didn't have much else to do at the time, so why not.   As with Kitkat, I too was only taking Paracetamols, after 3 days on stronger painkillers post-op, which seriously "bunged me up", I just kept to regular Paras after that, and ONLY them for the second mast.  So how IS your skin for healing, Oldgirl?? Hope you're doing okay, flower? and somehow coping??  I'm sure you're very worried and concerned by it all, hey? To say the least.   Love to you and everyone else,  Delly  xX ❤️ Xx  ... View more

Hi @oldgirl . Well I'm really pleased your other scan results are "clear" for you. A difficult decision - lumpectomy or mastectomy. The biggest obvious advantage with a mast, is that it removes the possibility of recurrence in that breast, but a lengthier recovery time. Were they recommending one over the other to you, oldgirl??  X ❤️ X ... View more

@Seagulls  - Hi. How'd it go Friday?? Let us know when you're able. Hope you're okay? @trudy2010  - How are you, and how are you getting on with padding and scars?? @suzan  - Hi. Are you feeling any better? Since you had a change of heart tabs, I think? Was it?? Love to you ALL,  Dellypoos  X ❤️ X    ... View more

@louby_lou69  - Hi darlin'.  Yeh, I can understand and appreciate, that due to where you were "up to" at the time, your earlier reading of the article may not have struck the same "chord", as it has more recently?  It truly is excellent stuff. "Food" in fact. Wish I could write the same kinda thing myself. Stay WELL, dear girl.    Loadsa Lovey-Dovey, DoolallierbythedayDelly!!  😆   X ❤️ X ... View more

Hi @Seagulls  - I would think a great deal is down to the advancement in more sophisticated equipment to detect it, coupled with changes in diet, nasty food additives, and lifestyle changes with increased stress and mental disorders.  Delly xXx ... View more

@Wonky  - Well Done on getting through that yesterday. YOU!!. Hey? Dare I ask, did you mention anything about your pain? If so, what was said about it?? I have to say, Wonks, I'm with you on Jude, in preference to your previous mention of Jamie Dornan being one of your heart throbs, AND your actually "bumping into him"  😆  Afraid "He" doesn't make me "Corrr, or Phworrr"!!! Think Jude was at his most handsome in The Holiday. And Robert Redford in Butch Cassidy and The Way We Were!! Hope you don't have to wait as long as 4 wks. I might put some fizz in the fridge ready for hopefully "ALL Clear" news?  😊 Can't you go any faster, Mum! "Giddy Up, Mum. Can't you go any faster"!!! Keep in touch, especially if you're having any Wonky-Wobbles whilst you're waiting, flower, Yeh?    Lotsa Love, Dellywelly X ❤️ X     ... View more

Great to hear ou have a good support team. Do you have husband/partner and kids and other family and friends, Sab28?? Or are you on your "onio" like me, with some good friends?? Yeh, please do use this Forum to offload any upsets, frustrations, rant, sob, questions, advice, support, and for any sympathy and cheering up.  😊   ❤️ xXx ... View more

@The Plumarade  - Hi again, darlin. Am very happy to hear "No recurrence". Yeh, I neglected to mention about the advances in detection that have brought it that much more to the fore. Plus means it's therefore being diagnosed earlier. CFS is a PIG, isn't it. I can understand how or why Tamoxifen may have brought it on. A friend of mine "suffers" with it, and suffers is the right word, hence me say "is a PIG"! She's quite incapacitated by it at times.  A while back, I was reading a really interesting article about Magnesium, and how many of us don't get enough of it. One of the things a lack of can produce is "fatigue" and muscle weakness, which, as you well know, is one of the major difficulties with CFS. Did a load of on-line researching about it. I ordered and sent her some Magnesium Citrate tabs to try daily, and within two weeks she found them really helpful for combatting the fatigue, plus isn't getting any where near the same amount of "slumps" and muscle weakness. But this article "stressed" that many Mag supplements aren't any use, because they contain Mag Oxide, which isn't absorbed very well by the body, so isn't of much use or help. Mag Lactate is better, but can cause Diarrhea. Needs to be Mag Citrate. I'm taking it too now to help with my tiredness. Ordered it on-line from TROO Healthcare. Comes in FLAT "letterbox friendly" containers too, so no having to be in for a delivery. Give it a try, Plumerade. Alternatively, if you want "natural" sources, Pumpkin Seeds are especially high in it. Sources of lesser amounts, are most nuts, dark green veges, such as spinach. Dark chocolate has small amounts too, would you believe!!  😊  But not milk choc. No wonder I prefer dark  😆 Lots of Love to you and everyone else on here X ❤️ X         ... View more

Ahhhhh fffflipp @Sab28  - Oh sweetheart, I'm so sorry to hear your news. But I'm glad you're having chemo/hormone treatment BEFORE any surgery though, as I've read loads of reports on the Forum about how much tumours can be shrunk by the PRE-treatments they give these days, and that then often reduces the amount of surgery required. I sooo hope that will be the case with yourself, darlin  ❤️ You must be feeling shocked and upset, like the carpet's been pulled out from under you, to say the least?? And YES, horrible isn't sufficient a word for it - I would use one beginning with a CAPITAL "F" !!  ☹️ Please keep us up with what's happening and how you're doing, will you, hey. If and when you're up to it. Sending Loadsa LOVE and STRENGTH to You,  Delly  xX ❤️ 💓 ❤️ Xx ... View more

@splinter  and @Hailey - Hi again, girls.  Splinter, can I just ask you something, as it's a long, long time since I took the pill - from 16, and stopped at 21 (now 63!!), so was back in the 70's. We used to take it daily in those days. Has that changed now, as you mention "the week I DON'T take it"?? Is it not "daily" any more, then?? This is "educating for me, so am just interested from an updating myself view.    I hope you get some answers and therefore some peace of mind that all's okay, lovely. Hailey, hope everything's okay with your sis. Lots of Love to you both,  Delly  X ❤️ X  ... View more

Hi @ROSELGAR, or should I call you "CURLY"!  😊  - Ohh, that's such a shame about you struggling with the Moving Forward course. The moderators on here are very helpful. Just email them if you're struggling with anything, Forum or course wise. Have you read the Help Guide To Using The Forum section? I posted you the link below anyway.  I struggle myself with a certain techy things, so know what you mean. The Forum's such a good place to use, so I hope you can persist and just keep practicing with it. Have a read if you haven't already:-      https://forum.breastcancernow.org/t5/How-to-get-started/Getting-started-on-our-Forum/m-p/1335458#M53 Here's the Moderators address should you need further assistance, or ask we other members too: moderator@breastcancernow.org, I'm reeally pleased to hear your hair and lashes are recovering. Yes thanks, Curly Roselgar, I'm well. My two BC's were 06 and 07, and have been "clear" so far. I joined the Forum in 2014 when going through initial implant recon stages, but have stayed since to be of any possible help/support to others going through, so my presence is purely in a support sense. Wishing you lots of good healing sleep, zzzzz. Hey - How did you go on with the Acupuncture?? You were trying it to help with hot flushes, and was it for anything else?? Are you still having it, and has it helped at all. Lots of Love,  Dellypoos  X ❤️ X         ... View more

@ROSELGAR  - Hi there again. I was wondering how you are now? How are you doing, and how did you go on with the Moving Forwards" course. Did it help Roselgar?? Plus how are your lashes and hair coming on??  Lots of Love to You, DellyDooDaah  😊 X  ❤️  X  ... View more

@Nagie  - Hey, WHOO-HOO girl!!! Blummin marvellous  😄   👏   🙏   Deffo calls for a celebration!!!  🥂 I'll have a glass of Prossie (Prosecco) please - Cheers. AND, Nagie, I soo hope it all stays that way for you, darlin'  ❤️   💓 💖 xXx ... View more