Hi there - i am in the same position as you i'm afraid, we are both members of a gang we made no decision to join! I am having surgery on Monday next week for a double mx due to extensive DCIS was not given the option of anything else due to the extensive nateure. I have opted for no reconstruction, but this is purely a personal choice - this is a very personal dedison and you will have to steer yourself away from everyone who will want to give you their opinion ! this can be rather irritating... I am fed up with comments on Angelina Jolie - good for her! but she is not me and i cannot afford her plastic surgeon. Google pictures of reconstruction and no reconstruction, i am aware that some people who are not happy with the stick on nipples opt after a healing process for a tattooed nipple (not for me that route!) and i wouldbe worried about the stick on nipples - my luck they would fall out while in the supermarket! From researching various sites it appears that there are targets for surgeons to meet of around 31 days post diagnosis for surgery (at least in Wales) my date came for day 33 so that should give you a bit of an idea on time. To be honest the worst part of the whole thing has been the wait for the date, i have adopted the stance that, contrary to everyone i know that i am in denial, i am not in denial but made a decison not to worry until i know the prognosis following surgery as until then i won't know whether or not it is in the lobes...... but my bcn did state that my 'attitude' will change and i will probably be one of those who loses the plot once i go into hospital on Monday (to be honest lack complete stupid comment made me more determind not to lose it!) but we are all different. I will admit to right now appearing to be a swan - gracefully going through the last 3 weeks, home, family work etc whilst under the surface my feet are flaying around like crazy!!!! i guess the reality of my situation is that i am trying to keep everything together for my husband and two sons (22 & 24) and am more concerned on hiw this is affecting them more than being concerned with how it is affecting me (but i guess at some point this will change!) Just try to read everything you can, this forum has been brilliant especially the thread on the stupid things people say to you....i have had almost every comments and reading other peoples thoughts on this has made me smile and rather more comfortingly aware that i am not on my own going through this, saly there are a lot of us..... I hope you strat to feel a bit better, not happy none of us will feel happy, but if you take on board as much as you can from this site and other reading matter, you will feel a bit more in control - you can't change what is happening to you right now, but you can feel more confident with knowledge and a little less scared, and remember that I and lots and lotsof other cyber friends whether on the same journey at the moment or further down that path are here if you need us Melanie x
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