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I am exactly the same, no libido, nothing to do with the trauma.  Its letrozole taking the rest of oestrogen out of our bodies,.  Was prescious little there anyway through menopause, now nothing left that makes us a woman.  It makes us have zero libido, and then if we do painful because of dryness etc.  Its a nightmare.  I am resigned to having not much more sex until I come off it in 8 years.  Prob wont have a partner then, so I might as well give up now. ... View more

Dont know what the numbers mean tbh, as I was always having chemo, radio cam at the end and as a surprise... so thats great for you, as chemo was THE worst bit. Good for you, stay focused on YOU......thats what I realised at the end, its what I/YOU want that matters, I/YOU have to come first. He may wake up......my ex has now, and is working hard to get me back, BUT not living together. Just gonna have the fun bits. jI hope it all goes well for you. xx ... View more

thinking of you, how did u get on yesterday? x ... View more

Well only you can decide that.  I put up with it for a quiet life, but after I was really well again, I thought, is this really what I want.  12 years, seemed a long time to chuck down the drain.  I was the one with all the energy, where it was lucky if he worked a few hours a day before napping.  Maybe that was depression too, who knows, more like thd rink i think.   I was acutally planning our wedding for next year, everything booked, venue, disco, singer, food honeymoon etc etc.  But all the while planning it, thoughts in the back of my head made me unsure if I was doing the right thing. And if this was how I wanted to live my life.  Well I decided it was not......It is a very hard thing to do.  But you could look at it as a new challenge.  God knows you know how that feels.  Thats how I treat things now, a new challenge, I am doing things I never did before, like painting fences fgs lol.  But you know what, I can d a lot more than I thought and I am happy. You will find there is a load of support for you out there.  Family friends etc.  all willing to help and support you. Do what you think is right for you.  Dont be put off by all the change, selling homes, finding new ones, etc, the do etc.  IT IS EXCITING - a new chapter in your life and you are in control of it - NOONE ELSE X   ... View more

oh this is really a hard one.  I was DX feb 2015, had left Mx, chemo, radio, on letrozole.  Had scar revision and uplift/reduction on good boob this march 2017.  All ok.  Implant side still a bit of a mess, but hey, leaving it as is.   Anyway, I felt the same as you.  OH was fine during my treatment.  But I changed I think.  Like yourself I want to be doing things, enjoying my life. He was moaning all the time, about jobs jobs (we run a small b and b), never wanted to do anything, and whenever we did, he ruined it by drinking too much cider and being obnoxious and emabarassing.  Instead of getting on with things, he just moaned all the time.  GUests loved him and he was great with them, as soon as back with me, moan moan moan.     Well 5 weeks ago, I told him to stop moaning.......he said right you want me to go do you, and I actually said YES.  Asked him to clear out sheds of loads of rubbish b4 he went, he had collected over the years.  Spent hours in sheds clearing but got nowhere, as he was really drinking cider and smoking dope.  Moaned all day, worked for 2-3 hours a day and that was it.  Told him if he done 8 hours a day, like a normal person, all the jobs would be done fgs. He threw everything away, including all his clothes, including unworn ones. EVerything.  I just kept quiet ordered skips and let him get on with it.   Well he has gone back up north, and has actually thanked me for giving him the biggest kick up the backside he has ever had.  He realises what he was like, and how he was behaving.  He loves me, I think I still love him.  I certainly dont want anyone else and neither does he.  SO, he has given up the drinking permanently, he says.  Hasnt touched a drop for 5 weeks....... He hopes to move back this way.  But he has to do it on his own.  He is working now, and saving money so he can move back   He wants to be back with me, I told him that is possible, but I will not live with him.  He has to prove over years, not weeks or months, that he has changed and the drinking has stopped. I have said we will go out on dates, stay over at eachothers, and have holidays together.  But I am happy living on my own at the moment.  It is creally hard running the business on my own.  But I get a pension next year, so I wont have to work as hard, can take time off etc to enjoy life.  This should have been shared by us, but now we will just have to see.   The way I see it is, I cant lose.  If it works between us it works and if it doesnt, well I havent lost anything cos I have kicked him out anyway and living on my own.   Be strong, and do what feels right for you.  My OH wouldnt listen before he went.  I tried to explain, many a time but he just would not listen.  It took me kicking him our for him to realise and even think about change.  While we accept it, they will not change anything. We have talked much much more since hes been gone.  Its just such a sham we didnt do that before, again he wouldnt.   Good luck x   ... View more

The trouble is not that I can't have sex. The problem is I have no sex drive or feelings during it. I'm am extremely dry so use moisturisers but it's still uncomfortable during as my partner takes some time lol. Told him it's better quick. But not much fun for him with me wishing it to be over. Also it's sore and burns after. Don't know what the solution is. Don't think there is one x ... View more

Hi Yes feeling good now.  Rads finished end of Sept, went away for a week.  Now back to "normailty"lol.  On letrozole, but apart from that, all treatment finished.  Looking forward to a better year next year.  Good luck with Rads.  I did burn quite badly, but have very fair skin, everyone is different...... ... View more

I drove myself to all 15 Rads appointments, and went shopping after a lot of the time. 50mile round trip.  I found the little bit of tiredness I had hit me later on in the day a few hours later x   ... View more

I feel exactly the same. I only have the one, but cant imagine having a mammogram on it at all.  You cant squash it for a start.  maybe they just leave the plates wide apart and take the imaging like that.  That would work  I suppose.  My final check up tomorrow so will ask that question. ... View more

I am in Suffolk, Ipswich Hospital.  No hospital stays here unless you are really late in the day and have problems.  We were really left to our own devices when I came home.  BIt scary if I am honest, but all went ok.  Healed welll, drain out after 5 days or so, after trip back to hospital.  All been oksince.  Still feels tight and like somethings been strapped on.  Its hard, but I can lay on it.  But everything still pulls, but did have radio X 15 sessions so expect thats still affecting the implant.x ... View more

my goodness!!! my hospital do the mastectomy,and recon with strattice as a day patient.  I lined up with all the day surgeries, was told it is now regarded as minor day surgery.  I went in early am and was home for 4.30.  No district nurses here to deal with drains stitches etc, left to our own devices for five days, when we got it checked back at hospital. Funny how different areas treat BC different isnt it. ... View more

Hi Pauline, I feel for you I really do. I had the same, and I cannot offer you any words of advice or wisdom on the matter. Everything tasted awful to me too, and I mean everything, food and drink.  The only things I could just about tolerate were cheese on toast and pepsi/coca cola.  It does get better in that you can eat things, but they still taste awful. I found it wasnt only taste it was texture I couldnt tolerate either.  The texture of food was all wrong, sort of woolly lol.  And I could only eat white bread, no brown or half and half, which is unlike me. With time it does get better, but it was some weeks after chemo before taste buds started to come back.  I lost quite a bit of weight, which I wasnt bothered about, its all back on now, so back to normal.  BUT I can still only eat white bread, which is madenss..... Good luck  Val x  Oh i did find polo mints helped with the bad taste ... View more

hi loobyloo   I have had left MX and implant with strattice mesh.  I wouldnt have had the implant had I known I was going to have radiotherapy but it wasnt mentioned initially.  However I have now had 8 rads 7 to go.  The implant is decidedly tighter than it was, it has always been tight and uncomfortable tbh,feels like a bowling ball is tied on to my chest. It is now feeling much tighter, which is what they said would happen, nothing else untoward at the moment, will let you know after next 7.  Everyone is different of course, everyones skin is different too.  I had my Mx on March 10th.. they say can take a year or eighteen months to settle anyway. Val xxx ... View more

thanks Jill, I am very fair skinned and havent been in the sun this year at all so I suppose thats got something to do with it. I would burn out in the sun too.........Val xx   ... View more

Hi everyone,   Can anytone tell me how soon into Rads that boob/clavicle goes pink/sunburnt looking.  I have only had 3 and it is already rather pink and burnt looking, wasnt expecting it that soon lol x   ... View more

ha ha I feel like everyone else already lol, and I have only done 2.  The drive to the hospital 25 miles away is SO monotonous, groundhog day is right and I have 13 more to do.  Still get 3 day break at weekend cos have a wedding in Bristol to attend, Yay. will make the next week only four days too, but of course also means it extends it at the end lol.  But it does muck up the whole day.  Chose mid morning for times, because of traffic into Ipswich, but beginning to think another time would be better.  Hey Ho - another hour and Im off again.....good luck to everyone else.xxxx ... View more