I'll tell you story that happened to me a few weeks ago. To set the scene: I have breast cancer and the plan was to have chemo first and then surgery followed by radiotherapy. I had told family, friends and work colleagues, anyone else was on a need to know basis! Anyway, at the point at which this story happened, I'd had 2 chemos and had lost my hair, so was either wearing a scarf or my wig. On the day in question, I was wearing a scarf, or it probably wouldn't have happened, as my wig is rather good. Anyway......... I was at the school standing in the playground talking to another mum, waiting for the bell to go, when a woman I know (to say hello to, not much more!) passed by and nodded over. She went passed, and then turned around and came back and said in the loudest voice (and very slang scottish accent), pointing to my scarf, "Whit happened to you?" I replied "I've got cancer!" Her face dropped and she said, "Och, I didnae know!" (why would she? - need to know basis ;)) and then she asked "Whit kind?" to which I replied, "Breast cancer." The conversation went on (well I say conversation - it was more her prattling on and digging a bigger hole for herself, while my friend was cringeing with every word!). Her: "Aw hen, huv ye to get the breast aff?" Me: "Yes, I'll get a mastectomy" Her: "Aw well, when you get older, these things don't matter!" (BTW, I'm 43 and yes they do!!!!!!) Me: "I'll get a reconstruction at the same time" Her: "You just don't know the minute!" Me: "No you don't" She then reverted to prattling on about mundane things in her own life, and meanwhile, me and my friend were finding it very hard to keep straight faces. Thankfully that day my head was in a good place or there may have been a murder, or at the very least a lot of snot and tears from me! It still makes me laugh, and for the record, she has not spoken to me since 🙂
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