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Well done Fluffs , Just in time to enjoy Christmas , have a good one 😁 ... View more

Good news story meet  mad Ange today while she was having her chemo. Lovely to put a face to a name and she lives up to her name!. Feeling very lucky to have not  needed any chemo or radio therapy and hope all that need it are as positive as mad Ange, take care Sarah ... View more

Thanks Gill and Delly for your advice and support. Husband has just moved his little factory out of our garage and office from our spare bedroom to a unit so business wise things are improving.It hasn't really helped him taking over the home for his business.Being self employed has been hard he makes lasers for hair removal tattoo removal and has just sold his shares to a Chinese company, so will be working for them know.He's a very clever man but seems to struggle when it comes to business!.He's been paying  himself peanuts which hasn't helped as my nurse's pay doesn't go very far between five of us. I do love him and realize he's probably depressed. Doctor wise or relate wise he wouldn't entertain the idea. He recently cracked a rib and refused pain relief so anti depressants would be a big no no.When I was prescribed them for PMT he was horrified.My parents are very generous and have recently given all there children a generous lump sum to enjoy while there still alive.It would pay our mortgage off so make life easier , but again he refuses to touch it, which I can  Understand why, hurting his pride  I 've just bought myself a new fiat 500 for work and self indulgence but am paying 4% interest as he want let me use the money, my parents would be horrified if  they knew but again they think he's lovely, so I am a bit stuck. Our mortgage hopefully will be paid of in 2017 so will try  and sort things out between now and then otherwise make my own decision also the children will all be at university  and old enough to cope. Meanwhile I am lucky enough to love my work and throw my self at getting well and supporting my friend which is going to be very hard. It really helps writting it down so thanks has always made my diagnosis an added inconvenience 😨 ... View more

Delly, Thanks for your concerns , I am quite happy with my new boob, it still needs time to settle.Have an appointment with plastic surgeon Christmas eve, so will discuss it with him, he's very good so no real concerns with boobs. Hubby on the other hand struggling to talk about any of my treatment,  took him four months to tell his family ,and never mentions it. He's been self employed for past five years with not much success and I think has been probably been a some what depressed, things haven't been good for a long time . I did think this may have helped with our relationship but has had no effect with him,  So I have to decide  I have  to put up and shut up or take the plunge and go it alone,.It's a big decision with two teenagers and a 23 yr old to factor into the equation.luckily I  have a good friends but my husband is really good at making other people including my family think that I am being too hard on him. Unfortunately my best friend is nursing her husband through the end stages of terminal skin cancer which makes me feel guilty for moaning about my husband when she will loosing her husband soon.  So meanwhile I am throwing my self back into work and swimming as a distraction to what's going on a  home.and hope things may improve some what, But will have to make a decision in the near future. Sorry to dump this on you but it was good to get it of my chest ! 😨         ... View more

This forum's like a good old friend, you can disappear for a while but when you need a friend it's here. 😃 🌼 ... View more

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Hi.All brief update  8 months post diagnosis, 5 months treatment follow up appointment, dog ear scar on post diep scar, and box shaped boobs.! .What the hell, back at work and enjoying life., swimming 40_50 lengths and gentle work out in gym. Husband hasn't had a look yet at New boob, what the hell enjoying second chance in life! 😆 ... View more

Welcome back , Hope you like new picture it's just taken me 2 hrs to get it on here 😨 ... View more

This, is Oscar the best cat in the world will try again, ... View more

You've changed your picture , going to try mine.! ... View more

Hi All brief update 13 weeks post mastectomy and reconstructive surgery, first full day back at work, community neonatal nurse,.celebrated by buying lovely new fiat 500.Decided to live the life and forget the rubbish! Tomorrow? Spongebob ... View more

  Hi doubled 34, like you mastectomy and diep flap from abdomin, however back in July, performed in regional hospital so little after care.After talking with work collegue whose husband is a consultant oncologist , self referred to physiotherapy,  Seen within week and given exercises to do ,which have helped, find swimming really good. Managed to get back to work but stomach still very tight and arm still tight but improved greatly. My next plastics appointment isn't till Christmas eve so hope everything's going well. Hope this helps Sarah ... View more

Hi All , Had an absolute adorable cuddle with baby today , followed by visit to best friend whose husband is dying of secondary brain tumours.  life's too short! lets  just make the best of it, if that includes the odd glass of shiraz or a bad day what the hell. .a slightly soden Spongebob.     ... View more

Hi Jill know what you mean half my friends absolutely fantastic other half can't face talking to me, one Dr suggested if I'd just had seven months off should be refreshed, just told her I'd had breast cancer and then. It was a different story, I am sure it will make me a better nurse! Just be honest,! when it comes to OH absolute waste of time , never once asked how I was but, convinced my family he was a gem. .However I'll get there and continue to be Mum wife and daughter oh and very good neonatal nurse, 😆 ... View more

Hi all couldn't resist just an update to give you all a positive boost. 12 weeks post mx and reconstructive surgery ,first full shift back at work got to cuddle twins admitted new baby, went for a swim afterwords know enjoying life glass of wine and sleep,Good luck to you all.  ... View more

Morning all bit of a grey day here in Bedford today but feeling fine. .Day off work today so time to catch up with housework. I 've decided to end my journey on the just diagnosed thread as I am well on the way to recovery and will be concentrating on getting back to normal, well as normal as one can be.It's been 7 months since initial diagnosis and what a long 7 months they've been. I 've shown my boobs off to too many doctors, drank far too much wine, spent too much time in hospitals and too much time anxiously awaiting for results. However it's been a positive journey as well, finding new friends on this thread and finding out who your real friends are and becoming more reconnected with my family . So all take care ,Good luck with your journies and take one day at a time and thanks for being a shoulder to cry on . Sarah Xxxxxx 😉 ... View more

Evening all , survived first day at work neonatal unit,, . Started phased return non clinical so felt a bit off a spare part as it was very busy, however got lots of hugs and nobody could tell I had a new boobs.Get to cuddle the babies soon , ... View more