My Mum has been diagnosed with Breast cancer

[S2usy]

Firstly Kelly, I am so sorry to hear of your mum, we too are going through same at present....my mum was diagnosed last week, but we won't know about the lymph nodes u til she has her lumpectomy in 2 weeks time. I just wondered how your mum found out about her lymph nodes so soon before operation? Xx

[Kellysparkles1]

Hi all, my mum went for her first set of results today. She was told pretty much what we expected - it is definitely cancer - it has also spread to some of the lymph nodes. She will definitely be having a mastectomy, chemo and hormone replacement as the doctor said that the cancer is 'hormone dependent' (I think). We are still a little unclear on how serious all of that is but my mum is happy to remain unaware for now. Our next concern is that she has to have a scan to see if the cancer has spread elsewhere as it is invasive. She has an appointment with the surgeon on Monday (23rd Dec) but not sure if this is when the scan will be done. Still so many unanswered questions but I'm afraid that is how my mum is handling it at the moment! 😞

[Guest user]

Pickle - my mum is keeping it a secret from my sister. At least until she can tell her in person. My sister gets very stressed about health issues. It's awful talking to my sister knowing she doesn't know. I feel disloyal to her. Glad to hear your mum is doing well now.

[Guest user]

I hope today's results weren't too bad and that you have some answers and hope for the future.

[Guest user]

Hi Kelly,

Really sorry to hear your news. My mum was diagnosed with cancer when I was 18, It was a massive shock and she even kept it secret that she was going to the doctors as they had seen something on the scan. She also found out she had secondaries in the liver. I, like you thought this thing never happens. She went through chemotherapy which was a very hard time - but now she's back to work and as sociable as ever. I'm 22 and I have gone through university as has my brother and I think (hoping this doesn't sound selfish) this 'normality' helped my mum. 

Best of wishes xx

[Kellysparkles1]

Hi Crina,

Sorry to hear about your Mum. It's so hard being in these early stages as there are so many unanswered questions. My Mum is going today for feedback on her first set of test results so I am feeling terrified for her! Good luck to you and your Mum - I hope she gets well soon x

[Guest user]

I'd also like to thank you, Dawn. I'm also here to read up on how I can support my Mum (Kelly, I hope you won't mind getting in your thread). I just found out 2 days ago so still v early and not all investigations complete.

[Kellysparkles1]

Hi Dawn, thank you so much for your story. It really means the world to us to hear that others have gone through this and come out the other side.

Kelly x

[dawnhc]

Hi Kelly,

I am sorry to hear that your mum has been diagnosed with breast cancer. I know that my own daughter was very upset when we had to tell her my news. She was just 16 and had all her GCSE, then A levels to go through with very high hopes of  getting to Oxford or Cambridge Unis and I feared I was about to directly affect the outcome of that.

Wind on 23 years and a daughter who made her dreams come true and has given us 3 gorgeous grandchildren (yes we got a wedding to enjoy too :)).   Hoping you get the picture. My cancer diagnosis hasn't been easy - I have had a lot of recurrences, and secondaries but I am still here. I could tell you much more but I think this is enough to give you hope that you could have your mum with you for years to come. The fact you have come here shows that you care so I am sure your mum will have your support throughout this. My daughter knows she can talk about this freely and will get an honest answer. You will have to discover how your mum wants support but it is good that she has let you know straight away of her diagnosis. When we are first diagnosed it is very scary but there are a lot of good stories to be told here from women at many different stages in their treatment and I hope you will receive encouragement from them.

Dawn

xx

[Lucy_BCC]

Dear Kelly
Welcome to the BCC forums, I am sorry to read that you are so worried about your Mum, you will soon have lots of support here and our helpliners are on hand with practical and emotional support for you so please feel free to all to talk through your fears and concerns about your Mum.

Lines open weekdays 9-5 and Saturday 10-2 on 0808 800 6000

Here's also a link to the 'Just diagnosed' information and further support from BCC which you and your Mum may find helpful to read through:

https://www.breastcancercare.org.uk/diagnosis

Take care
Lucy BCC

[Kellysparkles1]

I came home from work today to find my Mum waiting for me with bad news. She has been diagnosed with cancer in her left breast. She has two lumps and has to have her left breast removed some time soon. We are all in complete shock as we feel 'this just doesn't happen in out family'. I'm feeling very lost at the moment - my mum is heading back to the hospital this time next week to talk to the surgeon and get more results. I am terrified that my Mum may be dying and I just don't know what to do. Any advice/ support/ stories would help a lot. Thank you