Thank you so much misswoof for taking the time to reply. Wow, you really do understand, and my heart goes to you and your husband too for all that you’re going both through. Really great advice too. My partner read it too and was also touched and liked that you reminded me that it’s ok to fall apart in front of him! Like you, I keep thinking I have to be strong for him, and I think he does the same for me. And I will just try to keep taking one day at a time. Not googling is great advice. I kept telling him not to do it, and now I find myself doing it myself! I hate that you felt you had to keep quiet about lump until his treatment was done, but glad that it wasn’t too long and you did then get things looked at quickly. I felt same when I felt mine, just didn’t want to give him more bad news, but realised it was wrong to wait. So glad I felt the lump myself, as my previous mammogram was only a year ago , so it would have been much longer if I hadn’t checked myself.
Returning hugs!!