Hello lovely ladies.
Well I never thought this night would arrive its been the longest week ever. I was told that the lump I have is cancer and then nothing else and wait a week for my results of the biopsy so I’m going back tomorrow at 305 for my appointment with the team at least I think that’s what I’m going for its all a blur.
Today after sad days and happy days and busy days I rang the helpline and I’m so glad I did.
I cried of course but then had a good chat about what I should expect to hear tomorrow. I think I expecting to find out everything but I probably will hear it in stages.
The fear of the unknown is the scariest thing ever! I’ve got my questions and my OH’s hand and that’s all I need. The children are being looked after so I just have to get on with it. Wish me luck.
Love Fran xx
Thanks for listening.
Thinking of you Fran and standing by you, virtually at least. There seem to be so many appointments, sometimes
The news is unexpectedly good, sometimes as bad as you feared and often just unexpected… But you’re surrounded by friends who have been in the same position and will help you cope whatever it is.
Lots of hugs,
Nonsuch xx
Good luck Fran,
Will be thinking of you tomorrow.
D x
Good luck tomorrow Fran. Glad you found support from the helpline.
Thinking of you
Lulu xxx
Best of luck for you today, big hugs to you xx
Good luck today, thinking of you
xx
I was so scared of this app you’re facing just now that it crossed my mind to send my husband alone and he could tell me afterwards very gently what the doctor said about me. To be honest the doctor was so nice, explaining things, really took his time and I walked out with some hope not all is lost.
All the best,
Love from Christine xx
Good luck for today Fran
Thinking of you x
Good luck Fran, I will be thinking of you too. I find out tomorrow morning what my biopsy has shown up. I cant eat or sleep at the moment just feel my stomach is in knots. I am just so grateful I can come on this site and really share and read about other people in my shoes.
Karen
Good luck Karen for tomorrow. Waiting for the results is so hard, my thoughts are with you.
L x
Good luck Fran. I’ll also be thinking of you.
I was diagnosed on 6th October and honestly couldn’t believe I had cancer. I am honestly so healthy and fit and never up nor down, and here they were, saying I had breast cancer. I just couldn’t tell anyone face to face (except my OH) and had to do the nasty deed by email, warning people not to phone me as I couldn’t speak without breaking down.
And now, just over two months down the track, just about to have my second chemo session, enjoying life to the full, not worrying about a damned thing. It’s amazing how the human mind can adapt to just about anything, given time. You probably won’t believe me right now, but in a few weeks you’ll be using all the terminology and you’ll understand a lot more and won’t feel the fear you feel now.
It hits you like a ton of bricks when you hear that C word, but if you just look at it as just one of life’s challenges. Some people “only” have diabetes, but then that leads to them having both legs amputated. Some people have “dodgy” hearts which can lead to a sudden, fatal heart attack. Some people have breast cancer and live to a ripe old age. I have a friend who is nearly 80 and she was diagnosed 21 years ago, and is still going strong. Sometimes in life we are absolutely powerless over circumstances and that’s a big lesson - to learn to go with the flow and let the professionals (and God, never forget him!!!) take care of you. I know it’s hard and sounds like an old cliche, but you HAVE to try and stay positive. That doesn’t mean you have to go about laughing and behaving as if nothing’s wrong, but it does mean refusing point blank to listen to any wee nagging, negative voices that pop into your head, and every time they do, make a conscious effort to tell them to p…ss off and reassure yourself that God (or whatever higher power you believe in) is taking care of your situation and you’ll be fine.
Hope this helps.
Mxx
Hello everyone,
Well I went yesterday and got my confirmation of bc but having lump op first but still waiting to find out about lymph node inv. If they are then they will come out with lump. Hopefully that will be it then chemo and rad. They said because I’m young,39, they have to throw everything at me. So that’s what they will do will be a long road but I’ll get there.
Told my son last night who was really good but hasn’t been sleeping well and told the headteacher today who will talk to him today! Was ok till I told him and the tears came but still its all positive. Haven’t told my youngest who is 3 as she doesn’t understand!
So told everyone now , its still a bit surreal but that’s natural. Spoke to my bcn who is really lovely.
Thanks for all support I’m sure I’ll be back for more chats.
Love fran xx
Fingers crossed your nodes are neg Fran… They will still take a few out with a sentinel node biopsy anyway when you have your lumpectomy just to check what ever the biopsy shows… The SNB is more reliable than the aspiration biopsy.
Take care hunny xxxx
Oops! Double post!
Hi Fran,
Sorry to hear your news, and I hope your nodes prove negative. I’m assuming that you are from Leeds (username Leeds39 gives it away lol) I live in Leeds and have had my treatment there. I had a sentinel node and node biopsy in September at LGI, and then started my chemo cycles 30th Sept at Bexley Wing St James. The staff, and treatment offered at both Hospitals has been wonderful, everyone has shown compassion and their expertise has certainly promoted my confidence in them, to be honest I can’t praise them highly enough. So please be comforted by the fact you are in good hands. The BCN are wonderful aren’t they, very supportive.
If I can help with anything at all, please ask.
Take good care.
Libby
Hi Fran
As well as the information and support you are receiving on here you might find it helful to have a look at the BCC information page for those newly diagnosed, it has details of the publications and support services available. Here is the link to the page:-
breastcancercare.org.uk/diagnosis
I hope you find this useful.
Best wishes Sam, BCC Facilitator