I am 27, breastfeeding my beautiful two year old and have recently been hit with the bombshell diagnosis. Invasive ductal carcinoma, HER2+ ER 7/8. I am lucky that the tumour is 7mm so a lumpectomy is on the cards. However the MRI has raised some abnormalities on the right side so I am now waiting for an ultrasound before the next MDT. All the bank holidays have lead to a big delay in getting a treatment plan put together.
I have been recently married and my husband and I have recently decided we wanted to try for another baby. We are now looking at perusing ICSI due to better success than just egg retrieval, but it is not fully funded on the NHS. I have just started daily injections and tablets. This has meant I’ve had to wean my little boy very suddenly. His feeds are mostly for comfort now and he is finding it very hard.
I haven’t found anyone in a similar situation searching on the forum and I feel quite lonely and scared at the moment. I’d love to hear from anyone who’s been in a similar situation!
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Hey, so sorry you find yourself here, I’m a few years ahead of you (34) and my Babies are 2 and 5 now but I just wanted to send you some love and a big hug!!
My MRI through up more concerns too and I ended up having more biopsies which all turned out to be benign. At the time I was so frustrated and just wanted the lumpectomy done, but in hindsight I am so glad they did a thorough check and I know everything was all OK with the other abnormal areas.
Hope you’re OK and I’m sure somebody will be along to give more advice soon xxxx
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Thank you so much! Frustrated is definitely a good way to describe how I feel right now. It’s definitely reassuring to hear that the concerns from the MRI were benign.
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Hi I really feel for you. I was 36, no children and on the ivf program when I found my lump. I got 19 embryos in the freezer the day before chemo. I was given 2 weeks by my oncologist to do this and managed it just in time. After chemo I was told I needed to wait for 5 years before I could implant them, as I was on tamoxifen for that long. This was 20 years ago and guidelines will probably have changed. My embryos were not successful, but they gave me hope and I tackled my treatment head on with the knowledge my embryos were waiting for me. I am a Mum now via a different route and my twins are 18 this year. I really feel for you, especially with a little one already. I wish you all the best for swift treatment and options that mean you can complete your family. Best wishes.
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Hello @h_sawyer
I just wanted to check in with you, I know you must feel scared and anxious about what’s to come, plus with the shock of having to stop breastfeeding and fertility thrown into the mix it’s a lot. When you feel able to, I would recommend the Someone Like Me service through Breast Cancer Now, it made such a huge impact on me when I called and spoke to someone who went through the exact same as me, to hear her experience and feel less alone.
Do you have a MacMillan nurse or similar contact through your hospital? They should be able to put you in touch with services that can help too, I was referred to the Osborne Trust for parents with cancer. The charity Shine has also helped me, which is for young adults with cancer. I have gone to meet ups and met people my own age, and been able to speak about these issues that come with being our age and going through something like this.
Breast Cancer Now also have a Younger Women event that you can attend when you feel ready to.
