Hello
Had a lumpectomy two weeks and returned for results today.
Two lumps removed in surgery however one more aggressive than originally thought, also cancer found in lymph. Mastectomy now needed.
Feeling lost and not quite sure how to process. I’m 46 and this has completely thrown me.
Hi @loz77,
Welcome to the forum, I hope you find it a helpful and supportive space.
I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going and that you’re feeling lost. Please know that you have come to right place, the forum is a wonderful community and is here for you 
Our nurses are here for a chat any time, here on the forum on Ask our Nurses your questions or over the phone 0808 800 6000.
Please do have a look through the various boards and topics to find those going through similar experiences or for places you may be able to share your experiences and knowledge.
This is a very supportive place, so please do ask any questions you may have.
Sending love,
Alice
Hi, I had a similar experience. It’s numbing, surreal and deeply worrying. They seem to be overoptimistic before they actually know the reality. Then they move the goalposts. I’d rather they were honest from the outset and let us know how uncertain biopsy results can be.
I have now had a lumpectomy and a mastectomy plus radiotherapy. Obviously none of this is easy but I just wanted to say that I am fine and it was not as horrendous as I had imagined. The mastectomy was not painful at all, the worst parts for me were all the delays and then the not being able to do normal stuff for 6 weeks post op (twice). I thought a flat chest on one side would be horrifying but it isn’t, not for me anyway. Everyone is different and you are still young but you have options for reconstruction if that is right for you.
It takes time, in my experience, for your head to catch up with what is happening to your body. I found it helped to just focus on the next step in the process.
I wish you all the best
Elaine
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Hello there, I’m sorry you find yourself here but you’ll find a lot of support.
I also had unexpected results after the first op, with positive nodes found which weren’t visible on ultrasound and going on to have a full clearance (no further posit e nodes were found).
The news and the waiting between ops and results felt horrendous to me, but I found the support of the helpline of Breast Cancer a huge help. Please lean on whatever support you can.
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Thank you so much for your message x.
I feel more together today.
I just wish I hadn’t been so optimistic to family about getting my results. One of the hardest bits about all this is having to share bad news.
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