3 months on... what now?

Going through breast cancer treatment Surgery
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Hi lovelies, new to this forum, so hello

I had a mastectomy (single) in October following screening/biopsies/DCIS.  Despite the shock and upset prior to my op, following my op I have felt OK, accepting of it and trying to get on as best you can; staying positive, etc and I do feel fine.  A bit of disbelief it actually happened!  Took me a long time to look at my new breast (I lost my nipple and had reconstruction) but now I have, and its almost 3 months later, I am really not happy with its shape.  My surgeon is a man of very few words and I’ve felt quite frustrated throughout and in a nutshell, has anyone on here been through similar?  I suppose what I am asking is, has anyone had theirs re-done?  Or requested it to be redone?  I feel like I shouldn’t be asking.  Is this necessary in the current climate?  Am I being vain?  Should I be grateful?  But, bottom line is this is not the breast I want and he says he will do the other one in a few months but I’m not sure i want him to… 

Is it a reasonable request to ask for a better boob?  Thank you x

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Hi bridget. Sorry to hear about your situation. I’ve recently had a mastectomy, but decided against immediate reconstruction because I will having radiotherapy soon. I’m very happy that the tumour has gone, but admittedly, I do get depressed when I look in the mirror now. I saw my surgeon the other day for results and I asked about reconstruction. I said to him, I was worried others would see me as ungrateful for wanting that. Like I was being vain and should just be happy that the tumour is gone. He said to me, that I had every right to be asking and it was me showing signs of moving forward. I think you should definitely push for the outcome you want! We didn’t ask to have breast cancer and lose breast/s. If your current surgeon refuses or you don’t want them to do it again, maybe you could ask to see another? It’s worth enquiring about. Good luck with everything