Feeling numb mentally since the diagnosis 3 weeks ago and very tired since the lumpectomy 4 days ago. Getting the results tomorrow & hoping beyond hope for a good outcome, but fearing the worst. I am age 50, widowed with a 14 year-old daughter and so scared of the future. Friends & family have been very supportive but how on earth can I face this moutnain I have to climb?
salsal,this is the worst time waitin for results,i was diagnosed this time last year lumpectomy,mascectomy,chemo and rads,all the treatment is doable,im back at work and did a 9 mile walk yesterday for bc,sendin you loads of luck for tomorrow xxxxx
Hello salsal50,
I was diagnosed two weeks ago and have my lumpectomy and SNB on 12th
I have found lots of support here from all the loverly ladies. I hope all goes well and your results are good tommorow.
Best wishes and keep in touch,
Isabellexxx
Hi Salsal
As everyone will tell you the waiting is so very hard. Whatever the results, you will have a lot of support from the ladies on this site, you will not climb that mountain alone! Always so very hard when there are children involved, but you will find the strength to do whatever needs to be done. Once you get your results you can ‘talk’ to the ladies here, so whatever you forget to ask your doctor, and you want reassurance it will be here waiting for you.
Good Luck for Monday
Sandra xxx
HI,SALSAL HOPE IT ALL WENT WELL FOR YOU TODAY, LET US KNOW HOW YOU GOT ON .
thinking of you & your daughter.
CHICA X
Hi Salsal50,
hope your results were good, if they were less than you hoped you have the support of many people here who have experienced all the possible variations and can help with any questions you may have.
My youngest is 16 and was 15 and doing GCSEs when I was diagnosed last year. He did well in spite of everything.
I’m sure you’re doing this but it is important to talk to your daughter with honesty. She may not want to know any details…I took my 3 out for lunch and asked if they had any questions about the disease, treatment or whatever…Silence! but I had asked them and given them permission to ask me…I hope that they think I am straight with them and I think this is important.
I wish you strength.
(((hugs))) and love
Lee x
Hi Salsal
Just to let you know we are thinking of you. And we are here to listen when you are ready to talk. Results…never easy.
Lots of Hugs to you
Sandra xxx
just adding my love to the thread, hope your results are as hoped for, waiting is the worst time, it gets easier
xxxxxxxxxxx
Hi salsal,
I got everything crossed that you got good news at your results. Remember that with all the fab people on here you will never go through anything alone…we are here to share the ups and the not so ups
Hugs Suexx
Thanks to all of you for the support already given, if there is one thing that the past 3 weeks has taught me - I must be open, honest and TALK to people - not something I have ever done much of before this happened. I have never had any serious illness in my life and through previous trials and problems ahve always though “Sal knows best, Sal can fix it” - well I can’t fix this one alone!
My results were better than they could have been - lump removed with “good margins” and clear sentinel nodes - I should be relieved and rejoicing but the bad bit is that the cancer was invasive and so I need to face up to radio and chemotherapy. Chemo has to be my worse nightmare in all of this…lumpectomy and even mastectomy didn’t scare me as much as the thought of losing my hair. I didn’t sleep last night because of the thought of it, and even though I know it is not inevitable, I am finding it really hard to come to terms with this next stage of the treatment
Hi Salsal,
I’m sorry you have to go through all this, but believe me the chemo and hairloss is do-able.
I was diagnosed in Oct last year and I have been through 6 mths of chemo and 23 sessions of radiotherapy, and I have 1 cycle of chemo left. My BC was diagnosis was similar to yours and I too dreaded the chemo, but although I lost my hair I love my wig, (see profile pic), and I have been able to carry on with my life just a bit more slowly than before!
On the plus side my hair is starting to grow back now, and where I had some grey this has all gone and is growing back a different colour!!
The support I have rec’d from this site has been brilliant, and I have made a new friend through this site, and we have supported each other through all of it.
You can do this, you just need to take one small step at a time. There are many different types of chemo and not all result in hair loss. Before your appointment with the chemo team it might be best to write down any questions you have, and if possible take someone with you. There was so much to take in that it helped me to have someone there that just listened, and that I could talk to later.
The way I have tried to look at my treatment is the treatment will only be for a couple of months out of my life, which in the great scheme of things is small and do-able, and I now feel so lucky that it was caught in time and was treatable.
Please take care of you, and message me anytime if you have any questions, or just want to offload.
Jo xoxox
Hi Sal
Just wanted to say hi and wish you well for your treatment. I am halfway through chemotherapy with an op and rads after. You will get so much support here, you can do it, one step at a time.
Sending you lots of love
Jayne xxx
so sorry that you have to go through chemo, I finished mine in Feb this year. Take each day at a time. This website is amazing, as is the phone support.
eva
Hi Sal,
Just wanted to say Hi and wish you luck with your chemo. The surgery didnt phase me either althougha m getting impatient now for reconstruction, I had to have Bi lateral matectomy last September, but am now out the other end with chemo and rads under my belt and herceptin started and tamoxifen too. You will get there the chmeo can be tough. I look back now and think how an earth did i do it, but life does slowly start to return to normal.
The kids keep you going mine are four and two and have been a tower of strenght to me.
Please feel free to message me anytime, i have also been on the daughter end of things too as my mum had it 7 years ago.
Take care and loads of luck
Nicki xxxxx
Comments here from all of you very encouraging, and giving me a lot of rpopping up when I am feeling weak & wobbly. Have taken the bull by the horns today & had my hair cut short - after a talk to the breast care nurse about cold cap during chemo (said shorter hair lets the cold get to the scalp more effectively). Had my hair this short 4 years ago, so quite liking a change of style, although not at a time of my choosing. I would love to any tips from those of you who have been there on what things you fond helped during chemo - I have heard various old wives tales about ginger, reflexology and natural yoghurt but not sure what they are supposed to help
xxx Sal
Hi Salsal50
Just take it one day at a time. For some of us it is difficult for some not as bad as we had imagined. I had my first FEC on Tuesday and I’m OK, planning to have lunch with my colleagues today. My story is on my profile and on my “embarking on an adventure” thread.
I lost my husband a year ago and its not easy doing it on your own, I know. It’s wonderful to have the kids around, but it is not the same. (send me a pm if you feel like talking about that side of things)
Take care of yourself
Love Maria
Hi Salsal,
I had my first cycle of FEC chemo 10 days ago, apart from feeling a bit nauseas for a couple of days, i was really suprised,
I know its early days yet, and i have only had 1 cycle of chemo, but it was nothing like i expected, i was petrified of what i thought was going to be a horrendous week, not at all.
I felt quite sick at times, but wasnt, went of coffee, my only vice! but a good thing really, i lost 4 pound in weight, as i lost my appetite, but im a little overweight anyway, so that was a bonus.
I have picked a lovely bob shaped wig on the NHS, and if i loose my hair then i will give it a try, got headscarves just incase, my worst fear, like you, was loosing my hair, but i am well prepared now just incase.
You will get some great advice from the ladies here, If it wasnt for them then i would have been in a right state.
Hope all goes well for you,
Take care
Sandare x x x