Hello, I’m 46 and not old but not young enough to be included in the ‘younger women’ group. Does anyone else feel a bit peeved about this cut off point? I was diagnosed at 45 just a few weeks off my 46th birthday. I’m premenopausal and now being given hormone treatments to put me into sudden menopause. Just wanting to connect with anyone else in a similar situation who is being given the medical treatments of a younger person but feel like they’re being grouped in with the older post menopausal ladies. I am young, I have two pre teen kids and I have the rest of my life to live!
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Hi Bobcat,
I was diagnosed at 46 and felt the same way as you. Too old to be a Young Woman but often much younger than the women I met in groups, courses etc. Many of whom were retired and didn’t have younger dependent children so I felt quite out of place. I feel lucky though that I had completed my family when treatment started so crash menopause, unpleasant as it is, isn’t an issue for me in terms of fertility like it might be for a younger woman.
Have you used the Someone Like Me service? I never did but it is supposed to pair you with someone else with similar circumstances. Maybe that would be helpful?
take care from a fellow Xennial!
x
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Yes, this is exactly how I feel. Out of place and straddling both groups. I also am not worried about having a menopause now, because it was just about yo be happening anyway. Unfortunately I don’t feel like I can fit in with the traditional menopause groups locally either because mine is chemically induced and I’m not allowed HRT solutions. I’m currently waiting for a match on the someone like me service so fingers crossed.
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I registered and am waiting for someone to get back to me on this.
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This has crossed my mind also as I was 46 at diagnosis and 47 now and as well as this still being considered medically young in terms of a breast cancer diagnosis, it’s still young in life in general, although my teenage nephews have made it clear they don’t think this is the case!
I think that 50 would be a better upper limit for the younger women group.
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Oh…I hear you exactly.
Diagnosed de novo with liver mets in Jan a day after my 49th birthday, and had developed spine mets too by the time I started treatment. Not young enough to be ‘young’ but also feel like most people with my diagnosis are probably way older than me which puts me off going to any meet ups.
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