A miracle is all I ask for. Xxxxx

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I pray for a miracle

| Hi everyone I’m new to this forum signed up out of desperation of answers, support, hope and a positive few words from everyone. My mother (49) was diagnosed with breast cancer 2 years ago she went through the treatment of chemo and radiation thankfully she beat it! A few months back my mum had a very persistent cough which we all thought was just a lingering cough from the cold she had around the time when the cough started. Two months went on where the cough got worse and my mum who hates doctors decided to go and get it checked they gave antibiotics thinking it was a infection in the lungs so she took the meds. A few weeks passed after two types of meds nothing worked she went to hospital then for a scan and showed there was fluid in the lungs so she got the fluid drained which was 2 litres in each lung. She then got discharged from hospital but that’s when things went down hill my mum got worse couldn’t breath properly due to fluid still in the lungs which was gone undetected by the doctors. She was breathing very shallow due to fluid around the Lungs so she needed a oxygen tank to be brought home. On the day of the oxygen tank being at home my mum was breathing away but little did we no the more oxygen she was breathing the more she was poisoning herself with carbon dioxide due to her shallow breaths wher oxygen went in and carbon dioxide stayed in her body she went into hospital where her lung had collapsed and was reinflated now she in on a ventilator fully sedated and her lungs are stiff. To make things even worse we had found out she had secondary breast cancer which had spread to the bones, lungs, liver and apparently the hospital new this whey mum went in last time for the fluid to be drained but never told us! Now the doctors are saying she will die of her cancer. I am extremely upset she is my world I love her so much I don’t no what to do apart from pray for a miracle to happen I would really appreciate some advice on the cancer how long people live etc i am torn to pieces along with my other four siblings. Please help me my mother is the a person who will see the inner beauty in everyone she is selfless given everything to her children even if that means her going without essentials. Xxx thank you |

[Lemongrove]

Hello and welcome to the forum. I’m really sorry that you/your mum/your family are having this awful situation to deal with. I really wish I could wave a magic wand to make it all disappear for you - but I can’t, and maybe miracles happen in a way we’re not aware of or can understand.
You don’t mention if after her initial treatment two years ago (of chemotherapy and Radiotherapy), whether she was given medication to try and stop the cancer returning (such as Tamoxifen or Letrozole/Femera/Aromasin). If she didn’t, then it is possible that these or chemotherapy such as Capecitabine could still be an optiion. But of course, she would need to pull though her current problem and be strong enough to cope with these treatments (but these are unlikely to cure her, as secondary cancer is largely incurable). However, don’t give up hope because there are people on this forum who have pulled through from what seems hopeless situations, and have then received medication that enabled them to live for quite a while with secondaries in the liver, bone and lungs.
When you say she had BC two years ago but thankfully beat it, I’m guessing that you’re under the impression the secondary BC she has now is something new or separate from the original/primary BC ? If that is the case, it’s no wonder you are so disappointed - as you probably believed the horror of BC, was history. I don’t know if this will help, but I think most people on here will tell you it’s much more likely that the secondary BC she has now has either arisen from a recurrence of the original, or that she already had secondary BC when first diagnosed, which was undetectable at the time, because the cells in her blood had not yet formed into metastases. I know this may sound like a moot point, but at least this provides you with the comfort of knowing that if your Mum believed she had beaten BC, she at least has had two years without nagging worry.
Anyway, if it’s alright with you I will say a prayer that she will pull through her current problem, and become fit enough to deal with treatment, and that if she has this treatment it will give her a long time to spend with her loving family.

[Lucy_BCC]

Hi Shelinadave and welcome to the BCC forums

I am sorry to read that you are going through such a difficult time with your Mum’s illness, in addition to the support you have here please feel free to call our helpliners for further support/information and a listening ear. Lines are open 9-5 during the week and 10-2 Saturdays on 0808 800 6000

Take care

Lucy

[tracyld]

I will pray for a miracle too. Remember God does not give us the Cancer our bodies grow it. Wrap your loving arms around your Mum and enjoy every second with her, she must know how much you love her. Sending you big hugs Tracy xxx

[tracyld]

How are you all doing ? Let us know how your Mum is and what is her name so we can hold her in our thoughts.
Love Tracy xxx

[tracyld]

Thinking of you Shelindave , and your four other siblings . How are you all ? Tracy xxx

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I am thinking of you, your siblings and your mum. Hope everything is well with you all at he present. And hope your mum is getting strong enough for other treatment. She is lucky to have you and your love. This is important and to enjoy every day with her. I know this because after 20 yrs free, mine has come back. And my family are such loving kids and keep me going. Try to be positive and fight with her. Sending hugs to you all.

Christine xxx