Bless you. You sound like you are very considerately doing all the right things for your family, and hopefully for yourself too. My 3 sons were in their 20s/30s when I told them of my diagnosis a few months ago. It feels tough to “burden” them I think, but is so necessary for them to be aware and part of this horrid and unwelcome journey.
I wish you all the very best.
Every case is different and progresses in a dofferent way. Please don’t allow yourself to become consumed with fear and worry.
My first time i elected to have a mastectomy and reconstruction as that would remove the need for any further treatment, this time i had a lumpectomy and will see the oncology consultant next week to discuss treatment which might be extensive. So 2 totally different experiences.
Please find the courage to tell family members soon as you will need their support during both surgery and following treatments.
Giid luck xxx
Hi,I had to wait 3 wks as well its standard. I had a lumpectomy in April and lymph node removal. Radiotherapy in July which was quite hard. Take each step at a time and use your suppport. Jacqui xx
It is difficult. Thanks for replying. Just need to feel I’m not on my own.
Hello, I am so sorry you have been diagnosed with this horrible thing.
I got breast cancer in 2014 I was 47 at the time. I was advised to remove a breast as I had cancer and a lump that wasn’t but could have been in the future so I opted for both to be removed. I did have silicone implants but one failed then I had reconstructive surgery 2016 but both operation to reduce my risk of cancer to 6% failed as I got cancer back in 2018 where lymph nodes were removed now I have lymphoedema fluid in my arm. 2023 I was diagnosed again with cancer cells so now I have gone flat. I’m 5 weeks post surgery but still need a small op on the 11th as they didn’t find any cancer in the dissection but they did do 5 needle biopsy so they think they got it all then, this is just a small op to make sure.
I’m now 57. I’m telling you my story because these days they can do so much more than 10yrs ago. We have family history. I am the only one who needed a double mastectomy at the start all my other family have had lumpectomy’s
Iv had lots of health issues over these past years but I’m still here. This time I went flat because my mental state couldn’t take it again. I live in the U.K. and marks and Spencer’s do lots of nice bras with pockets in for prostheses and a lumpectomy we get offered a false boob.
The most important thing to remember is that we have so much love for each other in this forum to help you and others get through this.
I don’t have children so I can’t advise you on what to say with your children but my family were told and just knowing I had told them took the pressure of me.
A lumpectomy is a smaller operation but still an operation where you will need to take it easy and no over doing things where if your family and or friends know they can help.
I know this seems about me but I just wanted to tell you that we can handle anything we are stronger than we believe we can be. Breast nurses are there for you, your body you are in control and ask questions, don’t be told this is what we will do talk your concerns with your consultant/surgeons take time to think and always take someone with you because I can tell you it’s hard to digest things they tell you, write questions and notes down.
This time is the first time I was given a McMillan book where I could write apt diagnosis treatment and stuff very useful to write stuff down, you may have done this.
As Iv said it’s your body only you are going through it be happy with your choices.
Everyone on this site are here for each other you are now part of our family because unless you have gone or are going through it nobody knows how you feel and what you’re thinking.
Good luck with your treatment we are here for you too 
What a lovely person you are. I feel so much better just reading your message. You have gone through so much treatment and still find time to help others struggling. Thank you so much.
The waiting…its agonising.
I too have children in thier 30,s. I am a carer to one of them ( his future terrifies me) but i told them in a pragmatic and upbeat way.
It dirs mean that somehow you feel responsibke for thier happiness when really you dont want any more responsibilities.
I have found it rather lonely so far but my treatment has been excellent. Surgery within 5 days of diagnosis.
A bit of a backlog re radiotherapy so im back to waiting.
Just deal with the stage you are in. The one you are currently in i think is a really difficult one, but it will pass. Then you will get a plan and that feels productive and positive.
You can vent here .
I wrote a blog about my cancer journey part 1. You might find it useful. I posted it on this site.
Good luck.