I dont know what to say!! She has been on my mind day and night these last few weeks.
I suppose she is now at peace.
I have only known her for less than a year, but have had had a real connection from the start. As have other people that she met( in liverpool) and on the site.
What a lively, funny, intelligent and insightful lady. The world is a duller place without her. Her sparkling wit, gorgeous face and lovely Welsh accent.
The last time I had a meaningful conversation with her she was adamant it was her time to die. She had been told she had months to live 2 years ago when she was mis-diagnosed with bowel cancer (was actually lobular bc mets).
She said she had had 2 full years that were a bonus. She lived them to the full and was fortunate enough to meet someone and fall in love during that time.
It is awful and shocking but I now feel guided by her. I know she would want me to stress that she had this extra time. She was not frightened or scared. She also felt supported on a spiritual level.
Rest in peace gorgeous Anne. You were and will continue to be a bright light in my life.
I am really shocked and saddened to hear of Anne’s death - it seems to have happened so fast - although reading Julie’s post I hadn’t realised she had been given such a bleak prognosis two years ago.
Very sad news, my thoughts are with her friends and family
What sad news! Julie,what a lovely tribute to Anne. I never met her but she had pm’d me a few times giving me hope of finding love again and I felt an instant bond with her. She came across as so bubbly,wise and full of life so her loss is a big shock.
I’m glad to hear that Anne found peace in her last few months and really enjoyed and valued her precious time and I take heart from that but another life lost too early.
My heart goes out to her partner and family. You will be missed Anne.
Anne xx
I am so sad to hear of Anne’s death. Over the past year we shared some fabulous p.m.s funny sad and we were also able to disagree without falling out. A true friendship. I will miss Anne for her wit and her charm.
So sorry we never made the afternoon tea we chatted about.
Rest in peace Anne.
Love Debsxxx
Although I knew that Anne was attending the hospice, I had no idea of how ill she was. No mention of it in her open posts or p.m’s - did she know, or did this not seem like a safe place?
I will certainly miss her.
My deepest sympathy goes out to her family and friends.
Anne deteriorated very quickly. When the tamoxifen failed she went onto femara. After a few months this was found not to be working either.
She then tied Ac and had a gruelling time. At this point I think she gave up posting as she felt she could not be positive or offer support. I think she pm’d a few people and I spoke to her a few times.
She developed quite severe ascites over the last couple of months and I think felt she was fading!
She decided a number of weeks ago that she was not up to more chemo and faded fast.
I did post at that time in case others wanted to offer support. One person took objection to this unfortunately and implied that it was a bit sick to post. It made me feel uncomfortable despite having Anne’s permission. However Anne then gave up or was not able to text or receive messages.
The last time I spoke to her was a couple of weeks ago, she was very tired and a bit confused. Her sister was there and was taking her back home to Wales (basically to die).
I hope this person realises the damage she may have done, in preventing the possible support Anne may have received, by her ‘sick’ assessment of the situation.
I hope we all can feel free to be as we are, - real - and not necessarily be positive and offer support, particularly when we are least able to.
I know that I for one, along with others, have experienced difficulty with another site (whose name is laughable), because I didn’t feel able to offer support when I was coming to terms with my own diagnosis.
Julie,
all through this you have bee a good friend to Anne Don’t let the ‘forum police’ upset you.
We should all be blessed with a friend like you at these sad times.
Love Debsxxx
The matter was dealt with swiftly and efficiently by a moderator, yes on another site. The person posts on both.People from that site have been very supportive to me and the situation.
Anyway, I only mentioned it to explain why anne did not post about how bad things were and why it all seemed so sudden.
The issue is sorted now. I prefer to spend my time remembering my lovely friend rather than getting upset by thoughtless comments.
Thanks for your support, memories and thoughts about Anne.
I never met her but we had chatted on here and privately …my deepest sympathy to her family another tragic loss to this b******d vile disease hope she is now at peace xxxxx
It was a privalege to meet Anne, and I am so sorry and shocked that another incredible woman has been lost to this blxxdy disease. My love to all her friends and family.
Nicky