This is to each and every single one of you wonderful ladies (including moderators)
After much soul searching I have decided that I need to ‘bow out’. This site was an absolute godsend when I was first dx, I couldn’t have got through this crap without you, but I feel I have to move on. Every time I read something scary or sad it takes me back 18 months and this horrible black cloud hovers over me. I’m back at work, going to Portugal next week (yay) and life is good. BC will never be far from my mind, but, for the sake of my OH and my beautiful boys, I have to try and leave it behind me. It is with a very heavy heart that I leave you all, but please know that you are all strong, amazing women who it has been my priviledge to ‘meet’ and I wish all of you a healthy, happy future. I will be forever grateful for your unending love and support and will always remember the laughter and the tears. I feel so proud to have been part of such an amazing group. I don’t know what the future holds (I may need you all again), but, for now, I will try to live each day as if it’s my last (don’t even go there) and put BC on the back burner.
Please (for me) give yourselves a pat on the back because you are all amazing and have helped me in ways you could never imagine.
Sounds like you have done a wonderful job of moving forward, and do hope that you and your family will have a fantastic holiday in Portugal. So glad that this site was just what you needed while you were having treatment - I think it, and all the ladies here, are amazing as well and have been such a support. I think you are really wise now to take that next step and move away from breast cancer and get on with enjoying your lovely family and taking pleasure from each day without dwelling on breast cancer. Hope you never need to come back here - although sadly, someone would always be here to welcome you. Love Sarah xx
Julie … I think you are really strong to do this … I am only 8 months on ,but I seem to be really dependant on the ladies on this site … I must admit i have to stay out of the secondaries thread cos I really do let my imagination run wild I too hope I can do the same when the time is right so have a fab healthy life enjoy your holiday and your family and look forward to a wonderful future xxxxx
I think I know what you mean. I too have finished my treatment, seen my oncologist this week who says I have a good prognosis and life feels good. Then you come onto the site, see something so sad and as well as feeling such sadness for those who are involved, your mind starts racing with the what ifs. When my son finished cancer treatment years ago when he was a toddler, I chose to leave the support group for the same reason. Every time we got together, another child had died or relapsed and I found that it was too close to home for me to be able to offer the support the parents needed and I was so worried about my own son. It got to the stage that I was getting depressed so I left. You have to look out for yourself and do what is right for you and I think you are very wise to just get on with your life without constant reminders.
Julie , love and best wishes for a long and happy and CANCER free life. Not until you have been down that long lonely road do you realise how much you need sites like these. You have moved on to the next phase in your life. I know one thing this has taught me, never to take things for granted and sod the dust it’s protecting the furniture. I cannot believe how stupidly fastidous I was about the house work, NOT any more. I have a beautiful five month old grandaughter and I am gonna see her grow up.
Lots of love Bobbie