Any good buddies for my Mum?

Hi,

My Mother has delayed her chemo for some time now and is about to finally start in the Beatson Glasgow next week or the following. This may sound strange but I’m worried how she is going to cope !! My mum has very low self esteem and pretty much lives on her nerves and has had real difficulty coping with this up coming treatment, I have tried to encourage her to get support from this site (It’s been great for me) I just wondered if anyone was getting treatment same location and time and can keep a wee eye on her : ) I will get more specific times etc as I know.

I am really worried my mum will again decide not to go through with her chemo and this scares me. I have told her this is a great opportunity to make life long friends as people going through treatment are the only ones that can truly know how mum is feeling. Sorry if this makes absolutely no sense I just want her to make friends and get support.

Hi Kim

glad u have found this site supportive. We can understand your mums fears (of the unknown) but the first step is always the hardest and after that it tends to become the ‘norm’ Do you live with your mum, has she access easily to this site? Would she look at it with you? When your mum hopefully goes for her 1st chemo then she will meet people in a similar position and hopefully be able to make a friend.
Good luck and hope someone will reply from your area soon. Lots of us on here to support you both. Hello mum, I remember how hard the 1st step is but then you find that you just get on with it and slowly but surely realise that you are getting to the end of the treatement. Will be thinking of you and hopefully ‘meet’ you soon.

Until then, take care,
you are fortunate in having a very caring daughter and I’m sure will support you all the way
take courage to make the 1st step and the rest will follow
love Chris x

Hi Kim,

Your mum is a lucky lady to have such a caring daughter. There are a lot of us out here who have felt or are feeling the same as your mum and these threads have been a huge help and support. There are quite a lot of us who have only just started chemo and some who are waiting to start who chat regularly on ‘starting chemo 14th Oct’ and ’ Fec starts 2nd Oct’ or something like that, perhaps your mum could join us for a chat she would be very welcome.
Take care you both
love caz x

Hi Kim, I do hope your Mum finds the courage, it is most often the fear of the unknown that is worse than the actual event. I am just about to start my 2nd round of chemo after a reoccurance, and to be honest I am not in the least bit worried about it, because I know what to expect, give or take, and I know it will help me.

I do hope your Mum can come online, even if she doesn’t post and just reads, it can help immensely to know that we’re all scared when we don’t know what our futures are going to be like, but we do cope, because we’re all a lot lot stronger than we sometimes believe we are.

May also be worth asking for a MacMillan nurse visit possibly?? To sit down with her and just listen to her fears and hopefully help her understand what it will be like.

Best wishes to you and you Mum

Nikkki

Hi Kim
I started my first lot of chemo yesterday and was probably as nervous as she will be, but the staff at the hospital were brilliant very caring and able to laugh and cry with you, they do this everyday so they can judge how everyone will be.
If you mum has any problems she can ring her chemo ward I already feel my nurse is a friend just like everyone on this site. We are all in this together and together we WILL get through this.
Hope you mum realises what a special daughter she has.
Best wishes
Jan

Hi I have had my 1st chemo on he 17th and i was really frightened but it was ok i took my OH with me our hospital you can take as many people as you like so may be if someone could sit with your mam when shes having it what chemo is she having because i having E CMF and the nurse puts that in and sits with you all the time and it only take about 30 mins. The side effects are all managable there is lots of antis anti sickness etc.
Hope your mum gets her chemo the unknown is frighten but once you have done it she realise that its not as bad as you think.
Take Care hugs to you and your mum x
Poppet

Hi Kim and mum

I was meant to start my chemo this week but it has unfortunately been delayed until next Tues, 4th Nov. I am not in Glasgow but only 3 hours away in Inverness and would be happy to chum your mum through the chemo via this site as so many of the ladies are doing.

Have you spoken to your doctor about something to take the edge of your mum’s anxiety? I know she probably doesn’t want to take any pills but might be worth discussing as if she is feeling so bad they might be able to prescribe something short term to help her take that first important step and feel more in control.

She is very lucky to have a daughter like you. All the best to you both Anne

Hi there,
I am in Edinburgh and have found great help by going to Maggies, I think they have one in Glasgow.
It is such a different environment to all the surgeries and clinics and waiting rooms you get used to after a while.
i highly reecommend you maybe pop in there with your Mum and just hang out or chat to people, if she can maybe talk to others going through the same thing, it might help to steel her nerve?
All the very best of luck anyway…I have ceratinly got a lot of support from this site, I hope you and your Mum do too
Gillian