Hi, I wonder if there are any other ladies from nottingham here? I haven’t got many friends and those that I have they have changed since this cancer thing, they treat me like I am going to break or something, they stopped being natural like before, like they don’t know what to say, I suppose you all know what I mean, unless you are in the same boat it is difficult to understand, after all it was a topic taboo for me too before I got it. I need to mix with people that are going to be themselves and enjoy life, a laugh, the cinema, a walk, anything that takes my mind away from this. I suppose what I am trying to say is I need some FRIENDS. I am 57, and since all this happenned I don’t go out much, I have got agoraphobia and when I go out on my own I get panick attacks. If there is anybody that feels like me please get in touch.
Hi Jaime…it’s times like this that show you who your true friends are…sort of helps you weed out that xmas card list…lol
I’m in NG8, how close is that?
Just had surgery before xmas, and with the cold/snow weather, I haven’t ventured further than the city hospital for a month…any excuse to keep sending the husband out…
xx
hi, tally I am in NG6 not too far I think,Send me a PM and that way we can be more especific. Thanks for getting in touch
Hi Tally and Jaime
I’m in NG7, I was diagnosed at the start of Dec and had surgery on the 13th Jan. I’m now awaiting my second lot of surgery as didn’t have clear margins. I am lucky to have supportive friends/family/fiance but they all live some way away (apart from the fiance!) and none of them have had this happen to them so they don’t really know how it feels. I know exactly what you mean about suddenly being treated as if I’m breakable!!
Hope you are both doing well. Have either of you gone along to the breast cancer care support group at the Breast Institute? I am thinking of going this month. I believe it’s on the 3rd Tuesday of every month.
Take care and keep smiling! xx
Hello and welcome, not to far away then, I’m in between the two hospitals bit closer to the Queens…
Yes the next meeting at the city is on the 16th feb, only been to the one last month where I met Josie for the first time, this month it’s Miss Bello coming, she was both mine and Josie’s surgeon, suppose to be popular evening apparently so get there on time if you can…
Speak soon, hugsx
Cool! I really hope I can make it. found out today i am having next lot of surgery on Monday; hopefully I will be up and about by the 16th. If at all possible I will see you there xx miriam
Could I ask if any of you ladies went to the Group at the Breast Institute? My wife is 32 and at the City Breast Institute. She is a very private person and doesn’t really like talking about her BC; she appreciates the concern people give her, but would rather carry on as normally as possible.
So far, she says she doesn’t want to go to a support group but says that it might be useful for me to go to a group where partners are invited. I have been thinking of going to this group because her BC nurse recommended it - but there’s also a Cancer Care Group (not exclusive to BC)that meets at QMC. Unfortunately they also meet on the 3rd Tues in the month at the same time. I was interested in how many people go, their age - and whether male partners actually do attend. I think I would feel uncomfortable if I was the only bloke there.
Hi Brooktop, I’ve been to the meetings at the breast institute twice, missed the last one. It is mainly woman who go but we have had a couple of gents, they either sit in or go and wait in another room…It depends whats on the agenda how popular they get, example February was to be a talk by Miss Bello…surgeon, that was busy…although she was unable to attend due to injury but a replacement answered any questions.
I will find out my card and let you know whats coming up.
If your wife was to go, she wouldn’t have to say anything, sometimes it’s good just to listen
Thanks Tally. Do you mind me asking if there are any ladies under 40 that attend?
Hi Brooktop
I’ve only been to one (the Feb one)and it was mainly older ladies - but a few of us were under 40! (I’m 39). They were very welcoming and nice. A lot of them had finished their treatment years ago but kept coming for the support. There’s no pressure to speak to anyone if you/your wife doesn’t want to (Most people seemed to be nattering about non-cancer things anyway!) I found it was really good simply to be in a room full of people who understood what it was all about, even without saying anything. There was a couple of partners there too who were made very welcome.
Have just found my programme and the next one is April 20th “Breast Care Sister - topical talk”, then it’s May 20th “Prothesis - Bras - Swimwear”.
Hi I’m another Nottingham lady. Have only posted on here once or twice when first diagnosed on New Years Eve. Tend to read more than post. I’m 38 and live in NG2. Just had my second FEC, already had WLE and lymph clearance. Need further surgery after my chemo as my my lump was found to be surrounded by pre cancerous cells, then on to Rads.
Would just like to thank all the ladies on here for all there positivity and support.
Jenny