Appointment on Monday.

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I have my apt at the breast clinic on Easter Monday after finding a lump in my right breast. GP felt fairly confident that it is a cyst or breast mouse, but felt best to be sure as I have high history on my mothers side.

Since then hub noticed another lump and one in my left, and a weird lump on my sternum (is this likely to be related?)He is also concerned I am too calm, he was calm at first, but could be due to his cancer journey three years ago.

I’ve tried explaining what it is likely to be, and that even if it is something sinister, I will be in the right place for treatment.

I am of course nervous, but his panicking is driving me nuts! He’s suggesting I take an overnight bag ‘just in case’ and laughed when I said I was just planning on taking him, a good book and some knitting or crochet.

I’ve shown him info on cysts and breast mice, but he’s still stressed. Is it unusual for the partner to be more worried than the one with the lump ?

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Good luck with your appointment Viola.My husband was in a worse state than me when I was diagnosed ,he sat there crying while I asked about the facts,what happens next etc.Hey,he may be driving you bonkers who at least you know he cares ???!!!

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Mine too Viola, he was in tears at my initial diagnosis and I was pretty calm, he still struggles to talk about it even now a year on to anyone other than me, I think they just feel so helpless as they are meant to be our protectors but this is something they can’t fix, he can rest assured they won’t be keeping you in over night! xx

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He’s got worse. Now angry at me all the time :frowning:

His behaviour is reminding me of my male cousin when we were both 8ish. He would poke and dig with words to get a rise out of me. And now my grown up husband is doing the same. It’s really not helping.

I am seriously considering not taking him :frowning:

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He is scared .Can you take someone calmer with you,hard enough dealing with your own anxiety nevermind his.

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I’d had offers, but he wanted to come back when I first got the appointment, he still does now. It’s a bit late for my friend to get a day off now :frowning:

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Try and keep busy and keep out of his way as much as possible today.Worst case scenario it is cancer,they will throw everything at it and have good success rates now due to hormone therapy treatments which help stop cancer developing further and from reoccurring .

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Viola its so hard to deal with all of this and i do think it can in someways be worse for our partners but getting angry with you isnt very helpful is it, hes probably finding your calmness difficult to deal with, if your were falling apart he could comfort you and feel useful i guess Xx

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All the best today Viola xx

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Phew, nothing sinister. Just lumps. No action needed. Just keep an eye on them.

They didn’t show on either mammogram or ultrasound. Feeling a bit confused about what they actually are, but relieved.

Thank you for your support xxx

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That’s great Viola.

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Brilliant news Viola ?

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Ah that’s great news! X

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Thank you :slight_smile:

It’s a relief, but a bit confusing. Nothing showed on mammogram or ultrasound.

But the lumps are there. So what are they?

I will keep a close eye and make sure I do my weekly checks.

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Did they not give you any explanation ?

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No just that there was nothing seen on the two tests and I would be automatically called up for next mam at 50.