Hi,
14 days ago found a lump in my breast.
My GP referred me to a two week wait clinic and I spent the remaining time thinking I had nothing to worry or stress about.
I had my appointment on Tuesday and have been told I have a malignancy.
I am completely broken by this news, I am 33 years old and have just got married this was not part of my plan.
I don’t know where to begin with navigating my way through this.
Hello Nikki,
I am so so sorry to hear your news, what a shock for you and your partner. It is a very positive step you have taken in joining this forum where so many of us understand the emotions that you are now feeling and will be here for you every step of the way.
My daughter was diagnosed last year at 39, fit and healthy and just like you this shocking diagnosis was not part of her plan.
You say you’re awaiting pathology results. As difficult as it may seem at the moment this is one of the hardest parts until you know more and have a plan and then you will hopefully feel in more control.The support available to you is amazing at every stage should you feel you need it.
As a mum of a daughter in her thirties my heart goes out to you.
Please if you feel it is the right thing for you to do keep in touch with us to let us know how you are getting on.Big hugs.Carol xx
I’m so sorry that you find yourself in this position. I’m recently diagnosed and waiting for surgery, so I truly empathise with how you are feeling. All I would say is take it minute by minute, hour by hour and day by day. There is hope whatever your diagnosis and so much treatment available. Try not to worry about what might be, easier said than done I know!
Don’t Google. So much is out of date, so much will not be relevant even if you do have a cancer diagnosis and you can’t undo what you Google. Take it from one whose been there. I went down rabbit holes at 3am that are totally irrelevant to my situation.
Do you have a follow up appointment scheduled yet?
Sending you lots of love and hugs. You are not alone. We are here with you xxxx
Coming on this site is a good way to start navigating. So welcome! I wish you weren’t here, that none of us were, but we truly have plenty of company and all of us have each other’s back.
The first thing I would do right now is not to hesitate to ask for some help mentally if you need it. If that includes some medication, ask for it and then take it. If that means meeting with a therapist, do that, too. This part, the waiting to know what you are dealing with, is hard. It’s only temporary though and once you have a plan it gets loads better. But in the meantime, don’t hesitate to ask questions here, scream or cry, or whatever you need to do to get through this time. But know that despite this being a cancer diagnosis, which none of us want of course, it’s a diagnosis of a cancer that is well studied, well researched and with great funding. It’s a hard thing to get through but the majority of us go on to live our lives to old age.
Hi Nikki,
So sorry that you have found yourself on this forum, but as others have said, we have all been there or, are going through exactly the same as you are now. It’s horrible waiting for results & appointments & although things seem to happen slowly, we are in fact, seen & treated very quickly.
We all cope with this journey differently. Although very shocked to find myself with the cancer diagnosis, I feel very positive. I knew that I would be having a lot of hospital appointments for more biopsy’s, having a magseed inserted , Radioactive injections etc, but none of them have been nearly as bad as I imagined. It is the thought of the unknown that is scary, the procedures themselves are almost painless.
I had surgery nearly 2 weeks ago for removal of the lump & sentinel node, plus more lymph node biopsy’s.
i was only in hospital for a few hours & home later the same day. Yes, I felt a bit sore but nothing that paracetamol couldn’t handle. I was fine a few days later. I have my results from surgery on Wednesday.
I’m hoping I will get a treatment plan so I know what to expect next.
I do understand why you feel stressed, but, as already been said, the treatment for BC these days is fantastic. You will get through it, you have no choice really! Try to focus on all the positive & good things going on in your life. Come back on here & chat, there is always someone who is listening! Have a good rant & tell us all your fears, we understand!
Good luck with your results.
Take care & big hugs. xxx
Hi Nikki
Just saying hello to you.
Nothing that I can say that hasnt already been said by other girls.
Gutted that youre on here at this time in your life.
Just dont be afraid or feel stupid to come on here and have a good old vent if its what you need.
Big hugs xxx