B3 waiting game and an ask for guidance

Hi All,

This is my first post on here and to be quite honest, I’m finding it difficult to find the words.

I’m 27, and I found a lump in my breast in late October, a few days before a family holiday. I kept it from my family because I didn’t want anyone to worry. It was a tough holiday for me.

Understandably, I was terrified finding the lump, I thought the worst. I booked a GP appointment for the next day and was examined. I was told that due to my age and being under 30, I’m classed as ‘low risk’, so the advice I was given was to come back in a month and the lump may have disappeared. It hasn’t. What upset me the most was the comment from the GP ‘would you be this worried if the lump was in your arm?’. I felt unheard, unsupported, forgotten about because of a statistic.

I was very lucky to have booked a private scan the next day, and was told not to worry because it ‘looks’ like a blocked duct. Nevertheless, I was referred to my local NHS breast clinic from that appointment.

I’ve had a few ultrasounds now and a biopsy. The biopsy results came back as B3, which I’ve found very confusing upsetting. I’ve been told there are no cancer cells present from the biopsy, but due to the sample being small, I have been referred for an operation to remove the lump for further testing in a few weeks as it’s ‘not normal’. For reference, and hopefully not too much info, it’s just beneath my nipple.

Quite frankly, I’m terrified. Not so much of the surgery itself, but the wait for the results, even now, a month before the operation. Initially I was told from my GP that I’m not urgent, yet after a private appointment and my local NHS breast care clinic, within weeks I’m booked in to have the lump removed.

After those results and my upcoming surgery, I decided it was time to tell my family. It has been really hard for me to open up about this, and the worry is eating me alive.

I’m trying my best not to overthink, but has anyone got any advice to get through this time? It’s funny because my occupation is an advisor, but sometimes advising yourself is the biggest challenge would you believe.

I’m young, but cancer doesn’t have an age. I’ve just bought my first house, and all I can think about is an uncertain future.

It’s difficult to trust in what the medical professionals say, when it was one of them who refused to refer me in the first instance. Women’s health is so overlooked, and disappointingly it was a female GP.

I’m just really seeking some guidance here, and I would be so grateful to hear from anyone who has had a similar experience.

Thanks all. Writing this has somewhat lifted a burden.

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Hi @darleyone,

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through - it sounds like such a worrying time, and I’m glad that you have found writing it all out to be cathartic.

I would recommend checking out our Have I got breast cancer? category, as you will find a lot of stories there of people going through similar investigations.

Please remember that most people who get referred to breast clinics do not have breast cancer, but that it is always best to get these things investigated.

If the meantime you would like to talk to someone, or if you have any questions, you can reach our nurses on our free helpline 0808 800 6000 - it may help you process things further to chat it through.

We’re wishing you all the best, and the forum is here to support you every step of the way.

All the best,

Alice

Hello
I am truly sorry that you have had an agonising wait and are still waiting but hopefully with surgery it will get easier

I am sure your family were shocked but are now supporting you and will be a huge source of hugs

Keep talking, make sure you have someone with you at any future visits