Hi, trigger warning relating to this post- baby loss. I was diagnosed with breast cancer 6 months after experiencing baby loss at full term, aged 34. The only path forwards I could see after this loss, was having another baby. My breast cancer diagnosis has obviously put a full stop to that currently. I am half way through chemotherapy following a right mastectomy. Whilst I am scared to look forwards, my brain is so focussed upon having another baby. All articles I read state a need to wait 2 years post treatment before planning a baby- these 2 years feel such a long time. My understanding is that pregnancy does not increase reoccurrence rates, however cancer is most likely to reoccur within the first 2 years if it is going to? I feel so guilty to be so focussed upon this. My son is 3, I know I have to live for him. I am not sure what I am asking- maybe just some lived experience? Thanks
Hi, I feel your pain. It is a conversation you need to have with your oncologist as it will depend on what type of cancer you have and your treatment.
Many treatments impact directly on your fertility and pregnancy can pose additional risks for some. I was advised to wait 5 years 
It is probably best to chat to them at the next appointment. Best wishes.
Hello, i just wanted to reach out. Im 33 with a 2 year old. I was always in 2 minds about having another, i have saved everything from having my first and now i feel like that choice as been taken away from me… they did ask me if i wanted to be refer for fertility treatment before i started chemo but i declined just because i wanted to start treatment asap and my main focus was my girl that i already have.
I keep thinking that my diagnosis as made my mind up about having another and its been taken away from me to make that decision which makes me sad… but then again i look at my girl and know she is my main focus in it all… its really hard! Also i been thinking about putting my body through another pregnancy when my body after all this could do with a break… also scared of triggering something hormones etc again even though mine is HER2 positive… they did tell me it usually is temp fertility wise with chemo but not sure how long you have to wait.x
I had a similar experience, having a baby after treatment was sometimes all that got me through.
I don’t already have a child and also had a miscarriage just before diagnosis.
I had various consultants that I didn’t feel I would be prioritising my health over the desire to have a baby.
However, I did find one consultant though who was supportive and helped me balance the risk and has done everything to help me weigh that risk for myself and understands that it is a risk worth taking.
I would suggest if you find a doctor like that, keep with them, keep requesting them.
I hope you get what you need and keep advocating for what you want. There are safe ways of doing this.
Wishing you all the best.
Thank you for your reply and I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage prior to diagnosis. As you said, I am finding it hard to find someone I can sit down with and thoroughly discuss timings and risk. Need to find a consultant that understands. So glad you found yours- gives me some hope x