When you have cancer you don’t a green light for go and the other elements of life stop and your whole focus can be on healing.
I found out yesterday that my brother died in an accident. We will never know the full answer. I don’t need one.
My brother and I had such a connection and he was a soul mate. He was younger than me.
He left home and lived in New Zealand for a very long while with intermittent travel.
When he heard about my diagnosis he was in Laos. He traveled four days to come and give me a hug, staying a week.
I didn’t want him to leave the last hug I gave him I didn’t know would be the last. I didn’t want to let go. I knew I had to as he had to go back to Laos for him. He was coming back at the end of this month.
His home will forever be Laos.
I will have lost a soul mate and be so so grateful, proud and honoured that he loved me so much he traveled half the world to hug me.
We never know when that last hug might be…
You will forever treasure that last one, as I do with my beloved mum.
He’ll be looking over you and sending positive vibes for a good outcome for you on your current difficult journey.
Take care. Sending hugs and condolences xx
Sending my love and sympathies to you on the loss of your lovely brother Duane. I lost my sister last December so I understand that the grief will feel overwhelming at the moment for you. It is important to honour yourself and do what you need to do to grieve your brother. For myself I prepared a speech for my sister’s funeral and also made a little memorial at home for her…… it has a lovely photo of her, some candles and some flowers. It was her anniversary just before Christmas so I watched her funeral service again. You will know what you need to do. I am from New Zealand so it was lovely to hear Duane spent some time here. He sounds like he was a free spirit and very adventurous too. Take good care of yourself
I am so sorry for your loss of your sister. Thank you for sharing and kind words. And ideas.
Which part of New Zealand are you in?
Duane travelled from North to South and again and again.
Sending gentle hugs x
Thank you for your kind words. When Duane was last here he went to Maggies with me. So the next time I went on my own would be easier. We managed to see a councillor who was free. I have been in contact with Maggies and the councillor got back to me and I have an appointment next Friday with her. It will make it easier as she saw us together and saw our special bond.
I have a few ideas of how I am going to honour him, but I am also taking time.
I have much support from friends and messages from his friends. I am going to try to find as many as possible.
that is devastating. Sending you all my love 
for your kind words. When Duane was last here he went to Maggies with me. So the next time I went on my own would be easier. We managed to see a councillor who was free. I have been in contact with Maggies and the councillor got back to me and I have an appointment next Friday with her. It will make it easier as she saw us together and saw our special bond.