I would have taken it the opposite way… saying you “had a scare”. Is a bit patronising as if. She is trivialising it as a “cancer scare”. I wrote a poem about this.
I’ve copied it below… but it seems someone else has added the lines at the bottom! Cheeky!! I’ve put a row of xxxx because this is the part that is relevant to you. What someone has added… is taking the poem away from “everyone” in my opinion. And making the poem only relevant to those who are married… but I’ve left it on for you to form your own opinion xxx
Cancer Lite??
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So, you think I had it easy, that I just had Cancer Lite?
You think I got off lightly, that I didn’t have to fight?
To wake up every morning (at least if I’d had any sleep)
To face another day knowing this life’s not mine to keep.
I used to be so carefree,to live from day to day
It’s only now I realise, it can quickly be taken away.
Like you I thought that cancer without chemo meant cancer lite,
I learned how wrong that was as I lay fearful every night!
Can you imagine waking with such panic in your heart?
Not knowing how this cancer would tear your old life apart.
Can you imagine waking to the scars upon your breast,
Can you imagine feeling like you cannot ever rest.
Can you imagine panic, after every single pain, worrying
Is this the one that says, ‘it’s back again?’
Try for a moment thinking how do I get back my life?
How can I be that mother, sister, daughter wife?
When all the while the fear inside is tearing me apart
Resounding in my thoughts and now palpating in my heart.
Get over it you tell me, it’s past, it’s over, done
But once you walk in my shoes , tell me how to overcome,
This fear that is a part of me, a fear that never might,
Let me forget, for a moment , what you think is cancer light!
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My memory has faltered, the drugs created fog,
My brain feels like it’s frozen, my body, like a log
Oh how I wish I could go back, and just be me again
I wish that you could understand that I am still in pain.
I need some time, to come to terms, some time to build my life.
Until that comes, I need your love, for I am still your wife xxxxx