I was diagnosed with SBC about 7 weeks ago. Consultant said I have deposits on my spine, organs all clear, told me I would get treatment, infusion and anastrozole, then scans at 3 months to start, then 6 months. Said off you pop back to work basically. So then I had 2 delayed treatments, lack of calcium.so now I just keep bursting into tears and can’t stop crying , I feel like they’re just going to let me die and nothing I can do about it. I think I’m falling into depression, I’m normally very practical and rational, but I’ve been off work for 2 weeks for Christmas and I think I’ve had too much time to think, not sure if I should go to doctors and get anti depressants.
Angie
Angiepops- sounds like you and I were diagnosed around the same time. I too have found things very frightening, and Christmas has been difficult.
Does your hospital have a wellbeing centre where you might get support.?Your bcn would be able to help you with this? I am having some counselling at my oncology centre, and gradually starting to put things into some perspective (not every day!) I have also started an increased dose of anti depressants and they are helping with my darker thoughts.I’m hoping that the start of ‘routine’ life after the holidays on Monday will help too; I’m currently off work, but hoping to get into some sort of new routine while I undergo chemo.
Sending you my support and positive thoughts. You are not alone, and I guess that it takes everyone a while to come to terms in their own way
Angie so sorry how difficult this is for you but you can cope and life will settle down once the terrible shock of your new diagnosis passes a bit.It is terrible how unhelpful your hospital are at supporting you but sadly it’s common especially with secondary cancer.
Could you ask your gp for any help and support in your area?Medication could help you to cope for now and you can stop it once life seems easier to bear.
I struggled at first but working and normal routines helped as long as your work isn’t too stressful.
We used to go on live chat together a few years ago where ladies always had helpful suggestions for worries/concerns.
Take care Didi
Hi Angie,
I’m so sorry to hear about your diagnosis.
I think initially when we get the diagnosis of secondary it’s perfectly acceptable to be down. I cried everytime I told anyone about it. And yes being on holiday and having a lot of time to think about it sometimes doesn’t help cause you get all worried and fearful and start crying all over again!
I did my best to keep busy and not have too much time to think.
It’ll be 2 years this coming April from my initial diagnosis. Yes a lot have changed but Thank God I’m still working, cooking, screaming at my child over something silly she did! Life’s almost normal. But yes there’s the medication, the scans n Dr visits.
But I try to focus on family and friends, work and look for strength from God. I’m blessed with a lot of support from family and great friends. We plod on.
God bless you and prayers to you.