I’m going through my second fight with cancer within 18 months. Hubby comes with me to all appointments, takes time off work ( just as he did previously). However, i have chemo on a Wednesday & then the trouble start’s. Thursday & Fridays are like a count down, the Saturdays are a nightmare. I can’t speak to him without having my head bit off & I’m made to feel guilty for being ill. It’s got to the point, no matter how bad i feel, i carry on as nothing is happening i.e housework etc. Never once does he offer to step in. I tell him how i feel and how he’s behaving but of course it’s not him it’s me! I just want to cry or walk out.
Hi just wanted to say that I have read your post and am so sorry that you find yourself going through treatment again. Very difficult and I think as we are going through it we forget how hard our husbands/partners find it also. It sounds like you are both very stressed understandably and they say we take it out on those closest to us. Hopefully you will get more support/ advice from other ladies here. I can identify with how you are feeling I know I felt the same on occasions when going through treatment it is so hard and to be going through it a second time must be even harder. I remember my husband biting my head off and us having a stupid argument over cleaning the microwave both shouting at the top of our voices, that is just the way the stress of the situation comes out. I think you need to speak to someone and get support have you got a breast care nurse that you could speak to on Monday and explain your situation? You may find just confiding in someone will help you feel a bit better. Take care x
Hi Spesley,
So sorry to hear you are going through it all again. Obviously, it sounds like he is having difficulties with his feelings & you’re taking the brunt of it.
Whatever you do, try & park those feelings of guilt, it is NOT your fault. You will have enough to deal with going through chemo & you need support yourself.
Would he be willing to talk to someone else? As Whitelilly suggests, your bcn may have some ideas, or the helpline?, GP?
Do come & vent on here whenever you need to.
ann x