I’m a little further down the line, almost 3 years, so reporting what happened to me after time, I had my ovaries removed a year and a half ago, so was plunged into a serious surgical menopause, not nice!, am now on aromasin after 2 and half years of both arimidex and femara, and to cut a long story short have severe vaginal and urinary tract atrophy, which means that intercourse is nigh on impossible and anything else will result in a urinary tract infection
All this means that my hubby wont even approach me now, although I really dont have much of a sex drive I so miss the closeness and like others have said ‘the twinkle in his eye’ I am more angry about this than any other part of my treatment, losing a boob, my hair etc, because its taken such an important sweet part of my marriage and I’m always worried that my hubby will one day be tempted by one of the many ‘normal carefree’ women he meets in the course of his work.
I really do feel for the men involved with us in the BC road. I imagine, like myself, we were all just getting on with our lives, wild sex, sexy undies, early morning prods in the back, lol before BC struck, then our guys are faced with a new woman, not just in body but in mind too, they’ve got a lot of adjusting to do too, and to be honest just cos a guy loves the bones of you doesnt necessarily mean he feels the same regarding sex, yet he has a lot of pressure on him to reassure his woman and a lot of the time he cant do right for doing wrong.
Me and Hubby are only in our 40’s and I grieve constantly for what we had, yes I can still do things to please him, but as he says, the biggest turn on for him is my enthusiastic participation which is hard to muster knowing that I’ll be on antibiotics and in pain for a week after, lol
I’m seriously considering the topical oestrogen route even though my onc has said a definite no due to me being highly ER+, its QOL at the end of the day.
SS