Flippin mothers!!! My my why do they do it …she like my mother is so very naughty!!! But yes everyone keeps telling me to give her what for etc etc and yet I don’t want to hurt her and am powerless to stand up to her…why can no one eles understand that? so I know exactly where your coming from!!!
I’m doing ok …rang hospital up and My consultant has picked up my messages and got to speak to some sympathetic lady who said he was arranging my appoinment after clinic ends today so I will have a date next week as all letters will be typed after tuesday as they shut down tonight till wednesday for bank holiday…yet more time off for them all!!! But she did say he has agreed to see me as I have so many questions and they will contact me next week with the dates which he hopes will be week after aparently! so we will see but I am reassured it will be very soon so thats better!
Thomas’s appointment was with the ocupational therapy team who assessed his overall wellbeing and mobility etc as well as giving us info and ideas on how to manage his problems , they have ordered us a free Mclaren buggy as he has out grown normal push chairs and we still struggle as he cant walk long distances and they feel we shouldn’t push him to do it …some caring cutlery as he gets hand cramps when holding normal lots of bits like that …and now they will see him again to help with toileting etc and persona care and will help getting Autism out reach services at school …we were there for 3 hours …but what shocked me most was as I took my older child they did the tests with him and are now asking for him to be referred as they feel he too has problems ( I just thought it was me being intolerant etc but they feel he could have dyspraxia and adhd as well as the dyslexia …bit shocked I have to say …they were very thorough and thoughtfull with him and made me realise that he isn’t naughty but actually can not help it …not sure how I feel about it …too early to tell …but least I know its not because I’m a rubbish parent as thats what I used to think when he was bouncing off the walls at 3 in the morning …so now got to wait for that to come in…be ages I should think always is with the nhs!!!
Back to your kids situation …what reason has she given for not having them? how is your Thomas after what she said?
god it’s lunchtime again …can’t think what to make …well better do something back in bit xxxxxxxxxxx
So glad you have got somewhere with the hospital… about bl**dy time too, they forget its out lifes they are messing around with.
3 hours i a long long time for you being at the hospital, esp with 2 kids with learning difficulties… but then again they have got things on a roll for you with both of them.
I work within the Inclusive Learning Team and we deal with students with learning difficulties and disabilities. I work with a lot of students with wide ranges of difficulties, so i understand completely that you really do need to get every help and support for your kids as it can be very hard work.
Thomas is fine and not said anything else about it. She just thinks that me looking after the kids the night of my op shouldnt be a problem. I just really cant understand where she is coming from but hey i never could!!!
We have just had dinner, Ben had his normal tuna mayo on a crusty cob ( lives off tuna and pasta, would eat it 24/7 if he could), Adam wanted cheese and pickle… gave him it and said he now dont want pickle… so as you can guess it went down my neck, omg there will be no weight loss this week coming!!
How is your Dally… when will you know if she is expecting pups? Do you sell them to a private place or to friends family etc.
Well yes I agree every little does help where the kids are concerned and I am glad to be geting that support now …thomas is 6 next weeks …so it is about flippin time!!
I ended up making pizza…was nice but really shouldn’t after loosing all that weight and know I’m gonna have to face those scales soon!!
Button my Dally goes to the breeder she came from as they have a well suited stud that carries the right “lines” and he is a stunner!! I hope to start seing her having morning sickness within 2 weeks …scan is due 4 weeks tomorrow and then they should be due Oct 19th if all goes well …and due to leave home week before xmas…not great timing but I only let them go to approaved homes so not much chance of them being puppies for xmas…I have quite a waiting list as my girls are special!! Their Daddy was dip stick in 102 dalmations film and they have lots of show winners in their pedigree…of course I’m bound to say it but they are really lovelly dogs!
as for your mum…well last time I had a op I was totally out of it for days and am not looking forward to it this time being overweight!! have they said how long the op is? I havnt asked yet
ahhh the sun is shining so going to take kids/dogs for a run …catch you in a while
No i never asked that one but she did say there wasnt any point colin waiting around in the hospital and he was to go home. She said that the ward will phone him on either his mobile or home number when i get back on the ward and they know everything is ok. I did say we didnt just live round the corner for him to pop him but she still said there wasnt any point waiting. He will prob go to tesco and have a huge fry up and sit with a paper… oh what a life lol !!
I presume they expect our op to take some time then?? We live at least an hour away I don’t fancy waking up and being stuck on my own all afternoon! well when I go I will ask again too…how you feeling about it? how is the sleeping going? I was awake of and on all night poor adam too as I was so restless…at the mo I am so tired all day then gets to this time of night I am wide awake again!
Fed up of not being able to plan anything beyond the next few days …I’m so scared what it will be like for us…hope they find nothing to worry about too! some days I can ignore it all some days I can’t Just want to get back to normal!
been making some cards for my friend to sell at a market on monday …and stuck some on ebay too …takes my mind off it if nothing eles!
Sleeping not going too well… as you can guess by the time im writing this !! But hey come next thursday i will have a lovely sleep… might not be so happy when i wake up but ill be asleep lol.
Oh send me a private message with your ebay name and i can have a little look at your cards. I love Christmas but its coming round too soon and dont feel like we’ve had a summer.
I was the same as you not being able to plan anything as sitting waiting for a date, every day i used to get so mad when the postie didnt bring me anything from the hospital. Fingers and toes crossed you will get a date in the next few days.
Well im off for a nice bath to see if it will make me sleepy as im in work tomorrow… YIPEEEEEEE no kids !!!
I HOPE YOUR DAY WENT WELL AT WORK!! i HAVE LEFT YOU A MESSAGE SOMEWHERE ON THESE FORUMS THIS MORNING LOL hope you find it soon!
I have a date!!! sept 4th week on tuesday! pre op friday 31st aug next week!
I have changed my granny pants four times already since the phonecall!!!
I am off now to see my friend will check in tomorrow afternoon see how everyone is! By which time I will have digested the date and decided how I feel…I think!
Have been following all these threads and I am so pleased and happy that you have finally been given a date. We will all be thinking of you and praying that it goes well.
I have to admit to being nosey, went on Ebay, your cards are lovely. I too love to make cards, have tried all sorts of things but I can only do decoupage I am afraid. Stamping, colouring, embroidery cards, embossing, 5 year olds could do 10 times better, I just seem to have a flair with the decoupage though. Spent a fortune 2 years ago when a friend introduced me to card making. Wanted to try everything all at once and ended up wasting so much money. I use Ideal World and Craft Creations for supplies - both are pretty good, have to to be careful with the quality from Ideal World sometimes.
Anyway, keep those cards going, it will help immensely to keep you occupied and busy, less time to worry and fret.
Great news about getting your date, least you can relax kind of now knowing things are at last moving. Will keep my fingers crossed for you on 4th and hopefully all will be OK.
Have to let me know whereabouts on Ebay your cards are, so can have a look too.
Hope you have a lovely time at your friends and hopefully feel more calm about your op.
I am back from my friends had a fab chineese and also some retail therapy …bought more card making stuff!!
I am feeling very anxious over my op and have a lot of feelings going on in my head …thing is it is so drastic and if there is nothing wrong and it was a mistake (still feel un happy as I can not feel lumps in either breast!) then my nipples have been cut open and all sensitivity and shape due to ducts being removed on both removed and the ability to breast feed gone…all for nothing…I know I should hope there is nothing and I do but the responce and speed theyre working too and all the talking about me outside the room and coming in asking if I heard which I didn’t I think theyre not being honest
I am at the stage where I want to take my ball home (or in this case my boobs) I don’t want to play (or be cut up! )
Anyway it is my wedding aniversary tomorrow so looking forward to spending some time with hubby …not sure what we’re going to do yet but guess we will find something!!!
Glad to hear you had a great time at your friends and sorry you are feeling down about your op that is coming up. Nothing I can say will make you feel better, and as I haven’t been in your position I can’t really offer any advice. Just like to say, hopefully will be all ok and try not to worry (yeah as if). I know the feeling though that these docs and oncs etc are not telling the fully story or hiding something, as I felt that and still do sometimes, although everyone tells me not to be silly, but its not them thats going through this.
Happy Anniversary for tomorrow - how many years is it (think its 7 but not sure). Hope you do something really nice and special and you both really enjoy yourselves.
So glad LJ that you had such a fab time away from everyone. Hope you didnt blow the budget on your retail therapy, than again yo get spending girl… thats what its for. Its funny, you wait and wait for a date… get angry when they are slow about things as you want them sorted… and wham, in comes a date and your ar@e goes and you no longer want it lol. I was the same and now im counting the days and shi**ing myself and keep thinking… well do i REALLY need it and what would happen if i dont!!
Never mine lovey it will soon be over for both of us and all the stress will be gone.
Have you decided where you are off tomorrow?? I would hold back on the baby dancing if i was you lolol
Dawn my sweet, how are you?? Have you thought about cutting your hair really short. I know it must be soooooooo hard and if things for me get that bad i know i wont cope as being a hairdresser and working in a beauty & hairdressing college and the thought of working there!!! I know im in the right place to get a wig cut to style but the thought of everyone knowing… the 16yr olds wont hold back with there coments believe me!! You are being so so brave about everything and you are a credit to us all. If you really need a good old cry give one of us a shout as we are here for you and you can blub to you run out of tears.
Thank you cee and i hope you will say an extra prayer on Thur morning for me xx
Oh the X factor is on tonight… love it at the begining with all the tone deaf ones are screaming out songs lol.
Had my hair cut short into a bob, just below ears about 3 weeks ago, just before 1st chemo, and am having it cut again tomorrow (maybe) even shorter. Not brave enough to shave off I don’t think, although thought this originally. Thanks for your shoulder … .you may regret that one day soon!!! LOL
Just ordered chinese and am off to watch X Factor too - got sky+ so recording in case miss any. Baby just gone down, now the battle commences with the 3 year old. Fingers crossed she is sooooo knackered out with her trip to the seaside, she will just pass out … who am I kidding.
Will be thinking of you for your op on Thur … know you must be s**t scared, I would be too, but fingers and toes crossed all will be ok.
Have good saturday night everyone, whatever you are doing.
Cee thanks for all your support!!! I am sending you a big hug as I know you are also suffering at the minute and feel for you!!!
Dawn thanks for being there …I second what Claire says!! We are here for you! I don’t know how you have the courage!! I pray I don’t need any! but please ask if we can be any support!
Claire …nahhh only spent £30 so not that bad …then spent a bit more on hubby this afternoon for tomorrow! Can’t decide what to do tomorrow yet he keeps making suggestions but at the min just want to stay in bed with the duvet over my head…no baby dancing tho I agree!!!
I have stopped the ciggies as read somewhere it can increase the chances of loosing the nipple…don’t know how true that is also stopped the sleeping pills after you were told this week not to take them now…can’t get to sleep for hours just get silly when I go to bed then I don’t want to get up when i am asleep!!
just think Claire a few weeks and this will all be over I hope!!! my friend who I stayed with had a breast reduction done years ago and she showed me all her pictures last night…daren’t tell hubby but I want a picture of mine so I can remember what they looked like so I can see when they heal how they compare and also incase I need a recon later …might have to pluck up courage to ask him!!!
I am poooping my pants over the operation and what they might find and I can’t bear to think my boobs will never be the same…I thought once I had a date I would be ok…now wonder if I will ever be the same or ok again!
Love the X factor!!! what a great show!!!
Hope everyone is having a good evening! off to clean kids rats and walk dogs with hubby as brother-in-law is in to sit with the kids …well listen…cach you all soon!
THank you sooooooooooooooo much for your lovely comments and just want you to know how much help it is having such lovely friends on here. Am not that brave believe me, and have some really low days where I am not brave at all and think the worst, but have no choice but to pick myself up and carry on, as my family need me and I need them too. My hair is now starting to shed lots and lots, so think gonna have to go mega short now, no idea how long actually takes to completely go, but have started that journey.
Cee, hope you are OK today and that your daughter is doing well too.
Louby, keep on being strong and as you said, hopefully for you and Claire this nightmare will be over and your ops all finished and you can get back to your lives with no worries. That would be really good news for everyone. HOpe giving up the ciggies is not too hard for you, although am sure it is not easy. Hopefully the waiting will get slightly easier and then before you know it, you will be in and out of hospital and it will be over.
Claire, hope you are well today and not worrying too much as well. As I said to Louby, hopefully this will all be over for both of you very soon.
Hope you all enjoyed the x factor and catch up later.
Read something on here last night which really concerned me. If you google your user name everyone worldwide can read all these threads. I am also going to post this message on hot topics. I will probably be changing my user name to something not quite so “obvious” so hope you will all recognise me in the future.
lj, sweetie dont you dare consider not having the op, you know you need it, its just emotions jumping arround sweetie, you will come out on top as will claire and i always hold you in my prayers