Hi, I was diagnosed with grade 3 IDC, ER neg on 9th April (my wedding anniversary!) This came about having been told I had a cyst which was most unlikely to be anything other than that(!) but after FNAC I was recalled for a further biopsy, having been told this was most unlikely. Then came the news on Wednesday. Whilst a bit stunned I seem to be actually ok, haven’t cried or got too upset. To be honest, I’m more upset about having to cancel 2 holidays which we’ve been looking forward to since last year. Having looked at entries on the forum I wonder if I’m a bit odd. Surgery booked for May 1st but treatment not clear, poss chemo and rad. I feel more sorry for my husband and children etc and find myself being really cheerful and saying it’s all going to be fine and there’s nothing really to worry about … Anyone out there like me or am I just strange?
I have been exactly the same up until a bit of a shambles of an NHS appointment on Friday . I was surprisingly complacent, relaxed, accepting. Then they wound me up with their abrupt rudeness and now I am angry all the time! At least I am feeling something at last! Maybe that’s why they do it, to shake you up and get you to face up to situation, angry, fighting it, not accepting it? Ironically my surgery looks to be the 1st too. I will be thinking of you.
Hi jbf57, you are not strange! Everyone’s journey is unique. I have waited four weeks for my surgery date and its tomorrow and right now I feel nothing but everyone around me is anxious. I am convinced its self preservation, probably at some point we will collapse in a heap but right now we have to get through all of this. You will find your own way, there isn’t a right or wrong and there is lots of support on here. Take care xxx
Hello Jbf57, your actual treatment plan will not be completely clear until after your surgery and after your teams multidisciplinary meeting. There are a lot of additional factors which may become apparent after your surgery e.g. If you are having a WLE and clear margins are not achieved then you will require further surgery, sometimes grades change after the tumour has been further examined, hormonal status may also be slightly redefined. Whatever your final treatment plan pleased be reassured that BC is very treatable these days. You’re not odd in your reaction, everyone is different and copes in a different way, you actually sound to be quite positive in your approach which will stand you in good stead in the following months. I was diagnosed in Jan 2013 had a WLE , no need for chemo, 15 sessions of rads and 5 years of hormone tablets and found the whole experience very doable, just had my 1st yearly mammogram and check up this Jan and am all clear. Do keep using this site, it is amazing for support and information and if you do need chemo consider joining one of the monthly chemo threads, the ladies on them provide unbridled support both in practical terms and emotionally. Best wishes, hope all goes well for you, take care, Pat x
Hi
Don’t think you are odd at all - I am the same! My family are so upset and I seem to be consoling them and saying everything will be fine. I am remarkably calm for me and I agree with the comment below about self preservation.
I have been diagnosed with IDC on Friday and waiting for date for lumpectomy and SNB. I am sure my mind is just protecting me so I can cope and also allow me to crack on with my spring cleaning!
I am sure it will hit me once I go in for surgery and then it’s the unknown again til those results come in. Think I could cope with the Radiotherapy but not chemo. My poor Mum has just had her 3rd lot of chemo for Hodgkins Lymphoma so I have seen the impact at first hand.
We will get through this - good luck to all.
Best wishes
Poppet xxxx
Hi Jbf57,
I was diagnosed on march 13th and got my results on my birthday. I was in having op by march 31st and due to begin chemo beginning of May. I originally had a cyst removed 2010,clear mammogram 2011 then scan on march 3rd revealed all of this.
I havent cried and remain positive, well not yet anyway.You are not strange as I have tried to think cup half full throughout so far.
I have a holiday booked end of June which I have been told not to cancel as they can work my chemo round it. It is in cornwall and they said I may need a break by then just to have a change of scene. I have to have 6 months of chemo because I had 10 affected lymph nodes removed,then radio after that on my breasts.
All the best for your surgery and to everyone else here too xx Ruth xx