Hi @2kittens ,
Your post pretty much sums up exactly how I feel at the moment!
I had 6 months of chemo followed by a mastectomy and SLNB in August last year,And I am still waiting to feel normal 
I am still getting the occasional tightness following surgery and still have a slight seroma,which restricts my movement at times,I am having herceptin injections every 3 weeks and am taking tamoxifen,So this is having an effect on my fatigue levels and stopping me from getting back to my usual level of fitness etc,I am trying to be kind to myself,But sometimes I just think “I want to be back to normal”…..Whatever normal now is!
I also fully understand what you said about intimacy,I feel ok with being with my partner,But the mix of herceptin/tamoxifen makes it quite painful,Which is obviously an issue and nothing seems to be helping at present!
I think life after cancer treatment is a mixed bag,And takes time to get back to what we would consider normality!
Sending Love 