Hello
I have just read your message, I am almost the same as you.
I was diagnosed in Jan 24 and had a lumpectomy in July 24, during the time in between Jan to July, I had just about everything possible, two carcinomas removed, and bells Pulsey, all this time my Husband was very poorly, problem with his sight and heart failure, but after my operation everything was removed including four lymph nodes, but they were clear, but then I was told I needed radio therapy, so in Oct 24 I had 5 sessions, it wasn’t painful in any way, just the breathing in I found more difficult but I managed it, a few weeks after the side affects started, I had a very sore neck with big red circles and very sore, but I thought well if I don’t want cancer returning then stick it out, then my scar formed an abscess that burst it was just so frightening but I tried my hardest to continue what needed to be done, I had everything possible to try to heal the hole, pumps, several types of things, and in Jan 25 it finally healed but my breast is just an awful shape, but I can live with that, the saddest day of my life was Christmas Day 24, I lost my Husband and best friend, we were married for 84 years and did everything together, the paramedics tried for 40 mins to resuscitate him but it wasn’t to be.
I went through hell and back in 24 and now find it very lonely, although my Children help a lot.
I am now waiting for my mammogram results from June, so my fingers are crossed.
I have got through this at the age of 83, and just trying to enjoy what time I have left, I miss my Husband everyday x
Oh what a dreadful time you have had and I am sure that losing your husband was the absolute worst thing of all. It does sound like you and your husband, were great supports for each other, something I am sure he was grateful for, for your love, kindness and support of him, the whole of your long lives together. It is much harder to cope on your own ( even with children), so no wonder you feel overwhelmed and frightened at times. I shall keep everything tightly crossed for you, for your results from June and hope and pray it is brilliant news. Sending you a virtual hug. x
Thank you so much, it means a lot xx
Hi, you have already had so many loving and informational responses that I almost didn’t respond, but wanted to share my prayers and support to you❣️. I was diagnosed with BC 2.5 years ago now. Had single mastectomy, 5 mo chemo on the red devil, radiation, then Letrozole and Verzenio.
It’s a difficult decision, especially with your loss and personal need to recoup from being a caregiver; I can relate and know it takes so much out of you both physically and emotionally, in addition to everything else you are having to deal with and process at this time.
The decision is yours to make with your doctor. I chose to be as aggressive as possible with my treatment and wanted to let you kn
Sorry didn’t realize it posted, before finishing post😬; I’m 68 and kind of new to all these app features.
I was just going to let you know that the 4 week radiation treatment for me, I believe 2x a week, went well. After initial 1st appointment to set machine up, the actual treatments only lasted about 10 minutes, there was no pain and only some skin redness at week 4; they prescribed lotion to help with it. You do get some tightness months after, at least I did, but I had the breat surgery and 20 lymph nodes removed which impacted the left arm/ chest; so do stretching.
Talk with your doctor, take good care of yourself and when you are physically and emotionally ready, I hope that some of the information provided will help you make your decision easier. Blessings to you and your family. 
Jolm, I’m hoping things are going as well as can be expected. I do hate when the make things sound so much like a walk in the park. They deal with it everyday and that doesn’t make it easier for us, just more scary when they turn out worse than everyone expected.
So far for me my surgeon wanted me to have both radiation and estrogen blocker therapy, but the radiation doctor thinks either radiation (5days) or the hormone therapy for 5 years. My appointment with the oncology endocrine doctor keeps getting chnaged so now I’m scheduled for the 29th of September.
By the way, I too have bad reactions to anesthesia. So I always LOUDLY advocate for myself and tell them if they don’t go light with the meds I am hard to wake up (I’m talking like 6-7 hours) and then when I do wake I vomit horribly. So they give me anti nausea meds and change up their cocktail of meds for me and I have had no problems the last 3 times I’ve had surgery.