Can anyone help me to understand why I feel like I cannot move forward, it feels like i am in limbo, I feel low all the time and I am wondering why everybody else in my family say i should buck up. It doesn’t feel like I can, I dont want to see any relatives as they will go on about it. I don’t mean to be ignorant but still I find it hard to talk about it. Its only a month since i got my results and they were good said i don’t need any further treatment.
Hi Lindalou
You’re probably just caught with the come down from what would have a been a really big event, ie being diagnosed, or suspected as having a tumour, the shock, the fear, the anxiety. Then you have a whirlwind of activity, in and out of clinics, hospitals, then it all suddenly stops. Of course you know it’s good news, but it might take a while for your feelings to do a complete catch up. I would think it is important though to keep thinking positively as often as you can, to help move yourself on to a good place here. Maybe just look for the positive in wee things as often as you can in the day. Practice makes perfect! 
Keep telling yourself, and like you mean it, that you’re done, you’re free of it, you’re life is your own again, and keep telling yourself that you’re happy. I know it sounds awfully trite, but it might help. It might be worth talking to your GP as well. You could be having a brief moment of true depression here that needs a little help. I don’t want to put ideas in your head or worry you, but it’s perfectly possible. Have a word, it won’t hurt, and even talking to somebody who isn’t family might be just what you need.
Carole
Hi lindalou1952
It may help to talk to someone about how you are feeling at the moment. If you would like to share your concerns please give the BCC helpline a call as here you can talk to a trained member of staff who will offer you a ‘listening ear’ and extra support.
The number to call is 0808 800 6000 and the lines are open 9am to 5pm Monday to Friday and 10am to 2pm Saturday.
The BCC helpline is there to support you so please use it if you think this will help.
Kind regards
Sam (BCC Facilitator)
Hi Lindalou
Sorry to hear you are still feeling down, it must be hard when everyone is assuming you should be OK by now, but you still feel low.
I agree with Carole, it may well be time to have a chat with your GP, there may be some help available to get you through this.
My surgeon was fairly dismissive when he gave me my diagnosis of DCIS, and, whilst I am very aware that - if I was going to get a Dx of BC, then it’s definately the best to get! - I don’t think we can help feeling shock, disbelief and so on - just to be on the merry go round of tests / waiting / tests /waiting etc.
As Carole so wisely says - try and take a positive step at a time - this IS something to put behind you, but do talk to a sympathetice doc if you need to,
Take care
LizzyM