Hi ladies. We are lucky enough to have holiday home on the east coast and go most weekends to give my hubby a break as he works so hard. We had been friendly with another couple and I had known the lady had cancer. She never ever got dressed and would be in her dressing gown all day, (each to his own) I would see her pottering around the garden or in the window and would wave or just chat about the weather whilst I was out ambling with my dog. Today as me and hubby were in the village we bumped into her husband who told us she had died on Christmas day! I was so shocked as I realised I had not seen her for a few weeks but had not thought she could have died. Me and hubby went for a coffee and I think he knew how much it had knocked my duck off so to speak, I just feel really sad about the lady dying and I didn’t really know her that well. Sorry for the unpositive post, just made it all seem so real.
Hi Cavills
No need to apologise for posting how you feel. We’ve all been there and the thread that I normally hang out on have lost three of our group since Christmas. It’s very sad for the people who have died and for their loved ones, and we feel the loss of those lovely ladies who have been our friends and support over the months/years, but it also brings home our own reality, which is really hard to deal with. If you don’t feel you can share those feelings with your hubby then this is the place to voice your true feelings. I shelter my family from how I feel and my prognosis so it’s good that I have friends on this Forum who I can openly share my feelings with - although I do have a couple of very good friends closer to home who are excellent listeners. Do something nice to try to distract yourself.
Very best wishes.
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Hiya Cavills. I’m sorry about your sad news but you will b dealing with that sort of thing as you get older and of course on this forum. There has been a lot of lovely ladies from here “given their wings” and I some times feel very sad when I look at an old post and realise that person has now gone.
I have buried my parents …and seen three close bc buddies loose their fight but it never gets any easier.
Just think that lady in the village was probably very content in her dressing gown and pottering in her last few months and hopefully went peacefully in the comfort of her own home.
Hugs xxxx
Hiya cavills again.
The one thing I always do although I can’t always be bothered …is get showered , dressed everyday with full make up on by 9am and so many visitors can’t believe that I’m not sat in a chair dribbling, with pjs on and looking like a bag lady!!
Hugs xxx
Hi Cavills
Don’t apologise for opening this thread it is a topic we all face on this forum as DBNO has said we have lost 3 lovely members of our group on a different thread I burst into tears on each occasion. It is easy to get very close to ladies on here but it is always a shock when they pass on. It is an awful decease. We all keep it in and try not to involve family and friends with our inner feelings but here we can share our thoughts with people who understand.
Love to all xxx
This private forum is a very good way of expressing fears and thoughts to other ladies in the same boat.
Hopefully it will b a good support to you.
I’m on the wrong thread ladies …but couldn’t sleep last night ( too much choc )and so counted back all the cars I have owned over the years. …worked well …fell asleep by the time I got to 1980 and a rusty mini with odd coloured doors !!
Hugs everyone xxxx