diagnosed a second time

I had breast cancer over twelve years ago. Only had radiotherapy and tamoxifen. My daughter who was 20 at the time needed therapy. I was diagnosed again on xmas eve 2015 stage 1 grade 3 due to being Hers2 positive clear margins my daughter has coped really well this time and supporting me. . Two weeks after my op had a phone call from my area manager to tell me I was in a redudency again I have worked for the company for 18 YEARS this as caued me a lot of stess having chemo on the 27feb which is the day three years ago I lost my big sister and only sister I am not sleeping waking up at about 5 in the morning

Hi Stocko123

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Thank you Jo

Just sending you virtual hugs wish I could do more. Such a difficult time for you and the redundancy thing very upsetting. Your feelings are very understandable, anger, sadness, fear and the not sleeping is something we can all sympathise with. Tearful episodes at 5am are my speciality! I don’t want to sound trite but redundancy can sometimes be the key to change that is positive, from my experience, although it does feel like a bereavement if you’ve worked there a long time. Take strength from us ladies in this unwelcome club but who have found each other. Xx

Thank you for your kind thoughts. I do believe I would be better off being made redundant as I work full time and my job is very stressful . Just being anxious know about my first chemo this Friday

Hi Stocko, Big hugs to you, what an awful time your going through. No wonder you feel so stressed with everything that is going on. Its bad enough to be going through this awful journey without the worry of redundancy. I am so so sorry and wish I could offer you more than words xxx

Hi Stocko123,
Sorry to hear everything has come at once…life seems to do that now and then.
Re the redundancy, I don’t know if you company has agreed to pay any payment in lieu of notice (or if you could negotiate) but if its taken as PILON (viewed as yr contract being broken) its tax free.
From a slightly different angle, if you were diagnosed and informed your employer before they informed you about redundancy you may have some comeback under disability legislation. If you call Macmillan and ask to speak to someone in their new employment advice team they may be able to help talk it through.
Hope some of the above helps

Seabreeze, sounds like you may have an HR background like me. Very familiar with PILONS! Agree with you on the redundancy issue.

Hi all just a update

One I am still going to keep my job . But I am waiting for this Friday for more results could not have chemo on the 27feb due to my eco scan not being good… I have had a ecg last Wednesday