I’d like to join that club Fuffs, can we get badges made and have regular meetings over cocktails? :womanlol: I’m sick and tired of being told to ‘stay strong’, ‘be positive’ ‘be glad that you’re alive’. I am all of those things of course but feel I should be allowed to be grumpy and miserable occasionally about some of the less than wonderful stuff without feeling I’m letting the side down. I’ve yet to hear a convincing reason for feeling ‘glad’ to have a mangled boob, desiccated skin from radiotherapy and the possibility of yet more surgery that may or may not correct my lop-sidedness.
Sorry, rant over *slinks away feeling guilty for being so shallow*
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Sharon
Yes Fuffs123, a great idea … I completely agree … Xx
Someone actually said to me if I don’t stay strong and positive then I won’t get through it! cheers then!
Cocolily. I know you said you aren’t concerned about getting through the op but just wanted to say I have had two WLE now and the first one I had got myself into a complete state. But afterwards I felt a bit silly. There really wasn’t much to it. I went to theatre at 2 and was home eating dinner at 5.30.
That’s good to hear … I am having all my L nodes out as well so hopefully all goes well x
Oh ok. I only had snb when I had my lumpectomy. they took two lymph nodes and a micro bit was found in one. I am not having all my lymph nodes out until my mastectomy on 17th march 
They have found in mine but hopefully not in too many … Will know 2 weeks after op … Hope your op goes well too … Xxx
Best wishes for yours too. I am sure however you are imagining it to be it won’t be anywhere near as bad x
I am having a reconstruction at the same time. Nervous. Trying just to focus on the op at the moment and not look further ahead to all the treatment after. It’s hard x
Thank you very much for your kind words xx
Right ladiesI’m about to inaugurate the IDAFPLMSS CLUB! Stands for ’ I don’t always feel positive. let me snivel’ Club. Who wants to join? Must like cocktails and cakes and a good snivel1 xx Francine xx
Yup, I’m in too! Can we also have an Oscar-style award ceremony for most embarrassing public meltdown?
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Sharon
Welcome Cocolily and Gerbera13 to the club! Great idea, award for the most embarrassing meltdown. I should like to nominate mine in Sainsburys, when they ran out of apple sauce for my Sunday roast! End of the world it was and I sobbed in front of a shopful, lol. Interestingly enough, people either moved away from me very quickly, in case I was deranged, or gave me tissue! One even gave me a hug, ah. Do I win?!
Sainsbury’s is obviously a dangerous place Francine as one of our other ladies was saying she had a meltdown there when someone took the last packet of chocolate biscuits that she had wanted for herself! :smileyvery-happy:
Supermarkets I can do - just have a meltdown every time I get anywhere near a surgeon as I can’t rid myself of the notion that they are intelligent sadists who would otherwise be doing unspeakable things to people in dark alleyways; I can’t see any other reason for someone to want to spend their life chopping people up! Pretty sure the consultant surgeons in my hospital now draw straws to see who has to put up with me at my visits as I turn into a whingy, sulky teenager-ey brat who questions their every word (one of the consultants very patiently reminded me that he was the cavalry and not the enemy but I’m still not convinced!)
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Sharon
Definitely count me in. Nothing like a good snivel. Feeling all strong and positive today, but I know it won’t last. We are entitled to the odd breakdown ladies. Single or double mastectomy on 11th March, will know which this week, at least if it’s both they will match!!
I love it Francine, you are in danger of making me smile
Definitely double-points for snivelling between 1am and 5am Cheryl, but you get half a point deducted if it’s done in the company of a much-loved pet (whereas you gain half a point if it’s done in front of a much-loved human) :smileywink:
So, what’s got you upset? Would my all time favourite joke help? Yes? …Well here goes then:
What do you call a fly with no wings?
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A walk! :smileyvery-happy:
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Sharon (aged 50 and a quarter)
LOL actually Cheryl I think your joke might be my new favourite joke 
Must be the day for GP visits as I saw mine this morning. She is absolutely lovely but what is it with GPs and injections - she was trying to persuade me to have an anti-pneumonia injection this morning. Is pneumonia another cancer side-effect I don’t know about yet? I decided she was just trying to be helpful and offer me something so that I felt supported and that was the best she could come up with!
Sorry you’re still having trouble with the healing and I don’t know what folliculitis is but it doesn’t sound like the sort of thing you want anywhere near an armpit so I don’t blame you for having a meltdown. Did you get some antibiotics or something to help? I think you need to send husband out to get a stock of chocolate and tarte au citron as they seem to work 
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Sharon
so, I found a lump in my breast 5 years ago, had a fna which found nothing and sent away being told it was a fibroadenoma. I requested at this point to have it removed and was told no that it was a cosmetic procedure and I’d have to pay privately (I was 25 but I wasn’t asking for a book job)
This lump has changed and got bigger over the years but being a fibroadenoma that’s normal. Due to finding a secondary smaller lump attached to the initial I got checked and it’s cancer.
I can’t help but feel if he had just taken it out I wouldn’t be in this situation now!
Thanks Wemblo,
Sorry to hear that, I hope all of your treatment is going well.
It seems most people have these taken out which makes me.even more cross I was refused.