Newly diagnosed , to be fair I barely took it in , just nodded while the consultant talked . Told it will be removed as soon as possible by daycase . Given a pack of leaflets and sent on my way .
It’s breast cancer , in the breast tissue but very high up and all I can think about is “Where will they get enough skin to close the wound ? “
Im hoping being here will allow me to focus more on something positive instead .
Im not normally an overly emotional person but can’t seem to pull myself together on this one , didn’t know where to look for info to help , then found this .
Hope I’m in the right place . Thanks for letting me pop in x
You are most definitely in the right place for support . I am still in touch with the ladies I met on the forum going through treatment 7 years ago ,it’s very hard for anyone who’s not been through it to understand how it feels .
Its a very surreal experience . I remember very clearly leaving my appointment with loads of leaflets and a Breast Cancer Now file thinking what on earth is in going on . I promise you it does get better , you get more information over the first few weeks , you get a clear plan of action and that makes you feel calmer . Takes notes during your appointments , don’t be afraid to ask questions and ask them to write things down . Lots of support here . Best wishes Jill
So sorry you find yourself here, but every single one of us can relate to how you are feeling, completely overwhelmed with information and thinking how? why? am I in this position? I didn’t ask for this.
As @Jill1998 says it does get better, but there will be good days and bad: I too am someone who generally stays quite calm and I mistakenly thought because my tumour was small and easily treatable I didn’t need help and support, it was only after I fell off an emotional cliff and found this forum (& a Maggie’s support group) I realised that it really doesn’t matter what size your tumour is or the treatment plan: being diagnosed with any cancer has the same effect on your mind and unless it’s happened to you it can be hard to fully appreciate the effects.
Well done for finding us now! We are all here for you, no question is a silly question, and feel free to rant or whatever.
Sending you lots of love
My heart goes out to you it really does your post says it all with such simplicity.
This is a very surreal place & can leave you feeling very lost & overwhelmed.
You have most definately come to the right place, we all understand & we’ve all been where you are now.
The waiting is the worst part & although you may not believe it the further into the journey you get things do become clearer.
The girls on here have lots of valuable information & advice to offer, some of it may be relevant to you & some not but you will work that out. You will also realise very quickly we all have our own individual style of writing, and it really doesnt matter. You write or express whatever you want you will always be heard.
Also there is the option to send a private email if you feel a particular connection with someone and want to speak on a more personal level , theres no rules & no right or wrong way .
I use both means of chatting, if youre half decent with techno stuff youll work it out quite quickly how to use it. It took me a while to work out the email bit ha .
Its been a couple of days since you put the post on that Im replying to so I hope its a better day for you today
I know exactly how you feel, I was diagnosed on the 18th November and truly felt lost.
I’ve now had an MRI last week and CT scan today, and have an appointment with my consultant next week, so now things are moving. I feel more in control again. I also find writing a diary helps as does reading / posting in this forum.
it is very surreal and as I keep saying “ not part of my plan”, but we’re all in this together.
