Got the bad news this morning, not sure how I feel yet. Lumpectomy booked for the 15th October, friends and family are being supportive but still feel very lonely. Its all a bit of a blur at the moment. Anyone else feel this way.
Hi dollypus, I was diagnosed this week too. We are all here for you. It does feel incredibly lonely, I have a strange feeling in my ears that just makes everything sound like its miles away! I’m just waiting for some scans etc before I get surgery date. This forum is a great comfort and I hope you find it is too.
What type do you have? I have invasive ductal. I’m a few days further down the line than you, feel a little more in control and had my first full nights sleep last night which I felt would never happen again!
Sending you big hugs and lots of love xx
Hi Dollypus,
I was also diagnosed this week and I am still trying to come to terms with this devastating piece of news, so I can relate a little to how you must be feeling now. I have invasise lobular stage 2 caner and I am now waiting for an MRI scan and struggling with the wait. It does help to talk to other people on this forum and your family and friends. I have just had to tell my son today, a terrible thing for a mother to have to do!
Really feel for you looby, I’m gearing myself up to tell my two young daughters tomorrow, can’t put it off anymore!
Hi Dollypus and welcome to the BCC forums
In addition to the support you have here our helpliners are on hand with practical and emotional support on 0808 800 6000, lines are open 9-5 weekdays and 10-2 Saturdays
The following link will take you to the BCC ‘Just diagnosed’ pages where you will find lots more information and support ideas which I hope you will find helpful:
breastcancercare.org.uk/diagnosis
Take care
Lucy BCC
Hi everyone, It is very hard telling people. I also feel very self consious. I am trying to keep who knows to a small group although I know it will widen eventually. Im lucky to have 3 very close friends who have been incredibly supportive and helpful and kind! My husband has been amazing too. But I still feel very alone sometimes and I have to fight the anxiety winning! I get a lot of strength from this forum and I’m so sad there are so many of us! my 3 children are older and although it’s hard it must be so hard for wee ones . I feel for you girls Love and luck! xxx
hi goldengirl, I’m from croatia, the very first time in a forum and my english will not be perfect, but I need to talk to someone who is having a diagnosis of breast cancer, and sorry if I picked up your post to answer. I have had my operation in july 11, invasive cancer ductal, sentinel node negative, that’s good and no methastasis. I’m waiting for my radiotherapy, they must call me, i went to the simulator and now i wait. I know how you feel, first I was so shocked even I knew for a long time something was wrong with me, but all the tests showed I was fine. when I touched with my own hand the node on my right breast and biopsy showed it’s malign. I’m 56 years old. Now I try to do my best to improve my health and my emotional state. I wish you the very best, whoever you are as for everyone.
Hi nelly2013 , welcome to the BCC forums
If you are in the UK you may find our helpline useful to call as our team can offer you further support and a listening ear on 0808 800 6000, lines are open 9-5 weekdays and 10-2 Saturdays
The following link will take you to the ‘Treatments’ pages of the website which I hope you will find helpful:
Take care
Lucy BCC
Hi nelly, sending you big hugs xxx
Its great news that your nodes are clear and no sign of metastases., it must be a huge relief. Hope you have lots of support around you, do you live in Croatia or over here in the UK? We’re all here for you too. Xx
Hi Everyone,
I was diagnosed back in mid August, I have invasive Ductal breast cancer. I was originally told that i had a small 12 mm lump but after the lumpectomy and SNB they found that the lump was 25mm and that one of the nodes they took had cancerous cells in it. So more surgery this wednesday to have the rest of the nodes removed. I’m terrifed that they will find it has spread but have to stay postive and remember that before i had this i had a bad back so therefore my current back pain is not bone cancer and my cough is not lung canger but it is very hard not to worry. I have two sons, one is 5 and the other is 14. I have told Jamie who is 14 everything, I don’t want any surprises for him. He understands but I hope and it seems to be the case that as he sees me carrying on as normal as i can do, doing school run, shopping, ironing etc that this is just another part of our lives, i will get treated and cured and we will all move on.
I don’t really know how to feel, whether to dramatically change my lifesyle or not. My nurse said to carry on as normal, eat what i want, drink if i feel like it but I’m not sure about this. I don’t know whether to start detoxing, never have a beer again. I feel absolutely normal, no one would ever know i was ‘ill’ unless i tell them. I think this is what is so frustrating.
What is everyone else doing about this side of it ??
Sam xx