Hi this am I was diagnosed with invasive breast cancer. I have two tumours. I am so frightened. I have two beautiful daughters 8 & 9 and I have to live for them. I’m trying to be positive but the thought of what’s ahead terrifies me. Looking for positive stories xxx
Hello Katieh14, so sorry you find yourself on this journey. You’ll find lots of support on here, we know what it feels as we’ve all been or still going through it.
I felt exactly the same when I was diagnosed in October 2019 with stage 2 grade 3 invasive cancer, HER2 positive and estrogen 4/8. My tumour was 4.5 cm and I had one lymph node positive. I was was 45 at the time with two boys age 10 and 13.
For me the worst time was the weeks just after diagnosis, I couldn’t eat, sleep and felt depressed. But once the treatment started I felt so much more positive (I had chemo prior to surgery).
Anyway…I’m now over 2 and a half years on and doing fine with just a yearly mammogram and the lovely tamoxifen tablet every day.
Do you know what type, stage and grade the tumour is?
Have they told your what treatment you’ll need?
I know it’s a shock to the system right now and the thought of chemo/surgery etc is frightening but it’s all doable and You’ll be out the other side before you know it.
blackcat x
Hi @Katieh14 sorry that you have found yourself here. We have all been where you are now and there’s no denying it is terrifying. I am the lone parent of a school-aged daughter and like you, my first fears on being diagnosed three months ago were about her and how very much she still needs me.
But the good news is that even if it doesn’t feel like it right now, today you are in a better place than you were yesterday, as you will now have a whole team of experts focused on getting you the best possible treatment and the best possible outcome.
I have been amazed so far at just how many very effective treatments there are and how personalised the plan is to each patient. I have had surgery and now about to start chemo; it feels daunting but doable.
Lots of amazing support and advice from the people on this forum too.
Hang in there x
Hi Kathie,
I’m sorry to hear this 
I too have just been diagonised (last Friday) and have a 4yr old son. The hospital have been great and I’ve been rushed through so I start my chemo Thursday. My cancer is stage 3 and too big to operate on so I’m having chemo first to try and shrink the tumour.
There is a children’s book that you can buy/download that might help explain the process to your children, I changed it about a bit to read to my son but wanted to give him an understanding of what is too come with how I might feel.
Sending you lots of positive feelings always here if you want to vent.
Lisa x
@Katieh14 I am so sorry that you are also in this awful situation. There is lots of support on here - and the nurses helpline is fabulous. Please don’t google - use this page for reliable information.
I was diagnosed in January, had surgery in February and starting chemo in a couple of weeks. You will have a flurry of appointments and each one will bring new information, questions and concerns. Get yourself a pen and pad and write down questions as they come.
The first few weeks are so difficult, there is a lot of information to try and take in, your emotions are all over the place and you feel so lost and alone. Lean on us all here. So many have been where you are right now.
My girls are 16 & 12 - telling them was the hardest thing I have ever had to do, and I cried for the rest of the night.
Sending you love and hugs x